Are we supposed to fight back?
Background: a couple months ago BM told us she was going to change the schedule to SD being here 1 weekend a month and that DH had no say in it. So we've been doing that for the last 2 months. Didn't fight her on it, like I'm sure she wanted
Today she messages unnecessarily and says she's just wants to confirm with us if she's dropping her off for the weekend again? Um, you told us what the schedule was and that we have no choice and have been doing it, why do we need to confirm it now? Are we supposed to argue back that we want her more again?
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That's probably what she
That's probably what she wants to know she is causing upset. I wouldn't give her what she wants.
Whenever BM is doing things to instigate it works best if we act like she is doing us a favor. That usually upsets her apple cart since the last thing she wants is to be helpful to us.
Yeah I'm assuming the lack of
Yeah I'm assuming the lack of reaction to her ploys is driving her insane. The only reply this time was "yeah thats fine"
Jcksjj
You know her all too well. Isnt it great when they are disappointed you dont argue back. You are not giving the B what she wants. She will be racking her feeble brain on what she can do next. Pathetic BM's can be such entertainment.
It's funny she thought taking
It's funny she thought taking away her mini me was supposed to be a punishment. But at the same time it makes me anxious of what she/they will ramp it up to next.
LOL
If thats the B's punishment I say punish away!
Omg yeah, SD isn't the gift
Omg yeah, SD isn't the gift that BM thinks she is
Totally understandable to
Totally understandable to have that feeling. Just play it cool whatever she pulls next.
I'm dealing with this right now. Not from BM either. One of SOs exes from 25 years ago who is completely insane and still obsessed with him. Has started reaching out to SOs family in social media.because he has her blocked. In her crazy little head she seems to think it will provoke me that she is talking to his family on facebook and calling his mother mom, someone she only met twice when they were together.
She has made some digs at me as well, but whatever. I'm not the one pining over a guy from 25 years ago and I have never met the crazy broad she lives on the other side of the country.
It's like it's too painful
It's like it's too painful for them to comprehend that their ex really has moved on and they aren't relevant anymore. 25 years is insane.
Transparency
The only upside is that you can count on her to be disruptive and intrusive. There's something to be said for transparency.
Just say oh I'm so sorry we
Just say oh I'm so sorry we already have something planned. We will need advanced notice in the future if you want us to take the kids. BM used to randomly want to drop skids off at our house but we told her we will need advance notice. Sorry we have something planned