My SD 4 is taking antibiotics for not her first but second UTI infection with in the past couple months. She refuses to wipe herself at all when using the restroom so when my BF is here he cleans her, but when it’s just me she just doesn’t clean herself up at all. He insists that she needs help doing it, but I’ve shown her how and made sure she knows how to do it ever since I potty trained her. She just doesn’t like to do it herself. As her step mom I’m not comfortable wiping her when she can do it by herself. She’s definitely old enough and capable of doing it but she’s just lazy. I’m getting told that I’m the reason she gets them because I don’t just wipe her. In my opinion continuing to do it for her is never gonna teach her. Has anyone else had this kind of problem? Really just trying to show your SO that they can’t coddle they’re child for they’re entire life’s?