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The double standard is back

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Well, it never really left. It was just napping. 

A small, annoying one: when it was just DS in the house DH was getting up at 6/6:30 and making all kinds of noise in the kitchen and on the deck right outside DSs bedroom. Now I'm not saying we have to tip toe around until he wakes up but waiting to do the extra things until like 8am is not unreasonable. And being a little quiet when others are still asleep is just good manners. BUT, DS is now off to college and YSS has been staying overnight the last few nights. Guess who is getting up later and doing quiet things until 9/10am? Yup. DH

Second more frustrating one because it will go on and on: YSS went to help a friend yesterday. Inside, at the brothers house. Now, YSS and OSS the NMB (BM- aka Not My Babies) have not been careful during the lockdown. I believe I was justified in asking DH if he knew this kid and what was going on. DH got all defensive: but DS has seen his friends. Nope we are not playing the "but YOUR bio" game. I firmly reminded DH that DS has been with us the whole time, he is a motor mouth so we know what he's been up to and we know the friends. We also know YSS and OSS have been lying about a lot of things so there is currently a lack of trust. So there is a reason to be concerned and it has ZERO relationship to anything DS is doing. 

I really hate the "not my babies but OMG your babies" game.