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Chaos from all sides now

ITB2012's picture

Things I found out this week that I didn't need to know nor did I ask to know.

1. XH is losing his job and hasn't found another one yet and hasn't been trying all that hard. This means his college fund for DS may be getting looted or doing poorly (the guy is bad with mone).

2. XH has spent thousands of dollars on his pets this year. And based on what I was told, he's not being thoughtful and practical about it.

3. YSS and OSS are not getting along at all.

4. YSS looks down on OSS for not getting a job and not doing things himself to save money.

5. OSS is annoyed with YSS for his attitude.

6. OSS is doing an enormous amount of weed. (Would explain his 'tude and lack of effort to do things.)

7. A good friend of my mom's died yesterday. A relative died two days ago.

8. DS is now concerned he needs a job and should not have transferred to a four year college locally but gone to the two-year college to save money for XH. Um, not your job to modify your goals for your dad's problems. 

9. DH still cannot handle facts that are not a positive thing for him. (None of the things above, just a factoid I mentioned and he's unhappy about it but chooses to get snippy at me. Dude, I did not tell you how to feel, I told you a fact.)

 

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JRI's picture

We are all on the roller coaster of life.  It will all work out how it all works out.  Plus we are all living thru a global pandemic.

I'm stating all these obvious facts because there's not much you can do about any of it.  The best thing you can do is take care of yourself, your health, your serenity.  You are such an important factor in your family's life.  Everything will go better if you are in your best condition.

It's so hard to watch world events negatively impact our family.  But we are not the first to go thru this.  We are all descendants of bubonic plague survivors.  And, more recently, how many families were in upheaval due to the world wars.  Stay strong, Mom.

ITB2012's picture

And that's a lot of what I told DS--who is the source of most of that info. He's worried. I told him that it will be fine and there are solutions.

Interestingly I also found out DH overheard something about #6 and he mentioned it.

I was just mainly putting the post out as a "GAH" list since I get some of my stress out by just saying the things.

justmakingthebest's picture

That is a lot going on for sure. If DS's college fund has been raided he is going to have to do what millions of other college kids do and get a job as well as go to school. Loans are there to help but he is smart and hardworking- he can do this!

As for the X- maybe he was riding out that unemployment bonus and was fine until just recently. There are so many jobs out there and people looking to hire. We can't actually find people who want to work here!!

I am sorry for your losses, that is so much in a short time!

As for the SS's, as long as your DH isn't funding OSS- just roll your eyes and ignore that crap. He will either figure it out one day or he will be a loser forever!

CLove's picture

My condolences on your losses.

Things are so up in the air and changing daily, hold on...!