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Imustbcrazy's picture

Parental conflict

Excerpted from Growing Up With Divorce, by Neil Kalter, Ph.D.

"While this 'friendly' divorce may be enormously reassuring to youngsters, it poses another more subtle problem. For many children it becomes more difficult to understand the need for a divorce....

"A moderate level of conflict between parents is surprisingly helpful to youngsters as they begin the task of coming to terms with the reality and finality of their parents' divorce."

And I think I might just agree. It kinda makes sense to me.

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Colorado Girl's picture

explain "moderation" to BM...;)

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."

Frog44's picture

yeah - ditto Colorado Girl!!!!

Imustbcrazy's picture

BM HATES it when there is conflict. She TRIES so hard to be DH's "FRIEND"... like, an actual FRIEND, so when they DO argue, she gets REALLY upset. When all I have to say is, it is healthy and needed. A reminder of why they got divorced, and will help SS to understand why his parents aren't together. Funny she HATES conflict with us, but it is her actions that cause the animosity?! Try to figure THAT one out.

Daddys Gurl

CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG?

Frog44's picture

then we wouldn't be here on this awesome site finding wonderful people to talk to and support for each other!! Smile

Imustbcrazy's picture

TRUE!

Daddys Gurl

CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG?