VICIOUS STEPSON WANTS ME GONE.
i've only been married to dh for a year and half, and my marriage is already dissolving. Me and dh only fight about one thing ss14. This kid the most cunning, cold, hateful, evil brat i've ever seen, but he's very smart about showing it. To everyone else he's this warm, caring, respectable kid, but to me, he's the complete opposite. bm is not in the picture, so dh has ss all the time.
dh does parent ss, he's not a disney dad. Ss follows the rules, has chores, does this homework. On paper ss is a great kid. He is a great kid to EVERYONE, just not me.
Before me and dh tied the knot, ss didn't show any respect to me what so ever. The only person he would/does listen to is dh. Dh told ss that i'm the adult and ss is the kid, and he has to repect me as such; if not there is going to be consequences. It was a pretty bad agrument between the two. Ss didn't care. He still hated me even though I didn't do anything whatsoever to him. They got into another argrument with dh saying that if he doesn't knock off with the attiude, he's going to be sent away. Ss looked heart broken. Even I felt bad for him. Ss didn't speak to dh for a full week. Ever since then ss was made it his mission to destory me. No one else believes me, since they only get to see the 'nice' side of him.
He loves putting dh and I against eachother. Ss wants to be lawyer. Not only does he have the grades (honors student), but he's naturally very cunning, and manipulative- he would be great at it. When I bring it to dh's attention, he talks to ss, and ss ALWAYS manages to sweet talk himself out of it, or if we both talk to him, he somehow ALWAYS makes me looks like the bad guy. Dh sends ss off and it always result in an angrument. The worst part is that i've seen ss walk away turn around, wink and wave then contiune walking.
I've even put cameras around the house, hoping that I could show dh what ss ls like when he's not around. Ss acts all loving, then when dh looks at the footage, he gets angry at me saying that i'm picking on him for no reason. Have no idea that how ss found out, I didn't even tell dh until 2 days after (that was wrong I admit it). This one time ss "accidentally" broke my favorite plate, I did lash out (I aplogised after), but ss had already called dh. dh homes home, send ss outside and we fight. Dh actually yelled at me to leave ss alone. He also said that maybe he made a mistake getting married to me. That all i've done is bring noting but drama into his life and ss's. Then the next morning ss came up to me as I was walking to my car, and he says that he's always going to be 3 steps ahead ; that this more than just a game of psycholoigcal warfare to him, it's about putting me in my place. He said that he saw me smirking when dh threatned to send him elsewhere, and that I did this to myself. I swear I wasn't smriking, but to a vengeful, cunning preteen who has everyone wrapped around their fingers, there's noting I can say because i'm always going to look like the bad guy.
I'm going to wave the white flag. Congrats ss, you win. I lost.