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Imhereagain's picture

Sorry for the back to back posts, I'm posting a lot these days. Anyway. So BM is mad , a g a i n. Irate, another "emergency ".
She texts him, "hey we need to talk".

He says "sure, when".

She says "now, come to my mothers house.".
He's like "well I'm sick & I don't feel like getting up so just tell me what it is, I'm not in the mood." 

She says " you know what, fk that I'm not in the mood stuff, we need to talk. Your "female can wait!!". 
 

 

 

im like, first of all, what do I have to do with this random ass conversation. And why are you assuming he's even with me, which he was not. I'm in sonography school and I was in class at the time. I'm not even that bothered. I'm just venting here and telling this ridiculousness to people who I know can relate. Of course she can't be normal & just say what the issue is. And how do you know he's not at work? Like how do you think he can just up and come somewhere any day , any time. It's like she's getting carried away with the face to face meetings. & she's been straight up lying now. Last weekend, he had been texting her about picking up the kids. She ignored him. Saturday morning he finds out that his kids are at his sisters house with his niece. She lied to them saying he's not communicating when she literally ignored him. 
 

& I posted yesterday about her coming to the funeral. Oh and her sister & her kids came too *eye roll*. I guess she's irate now because her presence didn't bother me like she wanted to & my husband ignored her the entire time. So now all of the sudden she needs to see him and it's urgent. Like, how do these women not get tired ? Like, you not tired of being mad 5 and 6 times a week ? 
 

& he sent me a screen shot of that conversation, that's why I know what was said. He usually keeps me out of their drama and doesn't dump much on me. 

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mshilton16's picture

What in the world can be so important that she needs to speak to him in person rather than just over the phone? Attending funerals she doesn't belong at, texting unnecessary things... and now she's bringing you up in a way that frankly, just makes her sound jealous and resentful. I'm telling you, this woman has not moved on and is grasping for attention.

How long has it been since this BM and your DH broke up? 

mshilton16's picture

Plenty of time to move on! The fact that she feels the need to mention you at all does reflect a tinge of jealousy on her part. He's not willing to drop everything to go meet w/ her, so she immediately blames you as the reason why. Is she really that much in denial that he just wants nothing to do with her? 

Hoping for your sake this woman quickly gets put in her place. Seems to me anything that important could've easily been discussed over the phone. 

tog redux's picture

He needs to set some boundaries with her. There is no need for him to go meet her somewhere to talk about the kids. That's one quick and easy thing to put a stop to, right away.  

strugglingSM's picture

The BM in my life always manages to bring me up. She loves to say that I'm just jealous of her, but I'm not sure why. She's a pathetic individual. 

tog redux's picture

She's jealous of you. Anything she says, turn around the pronouns - it's projection.

Justthesecondwife's picture

Our BM does this too. In every piece of communication (luckily only legal communication these days) she brought me up. "Your girlfriend" and then "your new wife" seems to be her favourite excuse for any and every thing that she has ever had an issue with. The "new wife" thing is obviously an attempt at an insult, to try to make herself relevant as "the" wife, not just a new thing like me! I really don't think she grasps in her tiny little sphere of intelligence that she is no longer a wife at all. As you said, they are just pathetic.

 

sharlyns's picture

It's great yor SO shares with you. And that's what makes BM jealous. She sees he loves you and tries to use you as " the problem " let her talk text etc. That's about all she can do. 

I'm sorry about your loss. And even if they did show up????t they still not Center of Attention! Karma baby! Believe!

Also give you SO a big hug and reassurance. He loves you it's just sucky he has baggage !

Find your peace! I'm here for ya gurl!

StrawberryPie's picture

I really don't get with is wrong with these women that just cannot let go.  Your DH has been divorced for 5 years - well over time for BM to move on!  My DH has been divorced for 9 years and she cannot seem to let go (despite being remarried).  

I wish these BMs would just move on with their life!

Siemprematahari's picture

I'd be so flattered at how relevant you are to this BM. I mean really why is your name ALWAYS coming out her mouth? Your H needs to shut that down and create strong & consistent boundaries. He didn't need to entertain that conversation. If it was so urgent she could have addressed it over the phone, end of story. Also, if her presence wasn't wanted at the funeral why isn't anyone confronting and telling this miserable @ss about herself??

She does the shit she does because no one sets her straight. She needs to be addressed ASAP and stop entertaining her need for attention because she's not that relevant.

 

Losingit321's picture

 Mine is the same... I am convinced that it will never end.  Even if I got out of the picture she would still find a way to try and involve herself.  It's sad and pathetic.  I agree w/ the other posted who in the heck wants to be mad that often...