Reasons to leave Domestic Violence
It is common knowledge that many of us have been victims/survivors of domestic violence.
Do you remember what the point was, or what someone else said to you that finally convinced you that your abuser’s actions toward you are not ok, and that you should leave?
For me, it was my abuser showing a lack of disregard for my child that prompted me to leave (I don’t care what you do to me, but don’t mess with my kid). It was only after I left that I gained the self esteem necessary to not tolerate abuse from anyone anymore.
DD15 must write an essay for her English dual enrollment class in the topic of domestic violence (her class is presenting on the topic). It is an argumentative essay, the purpose of which is to convince someone who is currently experiencing domestic violence that it’s not ok.
Because this is such a touchy topic for me, I am having trouble speaking to her about it from a first person perspective. Plus, not all victims have children to protect, so my reason for leaving an abuser is not universally applicable.
While we all KNOW it’s not ok, we also know that when you find yourself in an abusive relationship, it is never sudden, but a careful campaign of slowly increasing denigration and gaslighting. This causes the victim to not realize they are being abused, or even worse to think it’s their own fault.
What was your tipping point that helped you finally wake up and leave your abuser? Was it an action? Something someone said to you? Do you have a magic arguing point that you think can convince nearly anyone to leave an abuser?
Please share. I will tag this blog and never take it down if can help someone.