Skids would have anyone believe they are jilted at our house.
"There's nothing to doooo"
"No toys to play wiiiithhhh"
"Why does DD have nicer things/toyyys"
Poooor widdle skids.
DH decided yesterday to pack up the skids' room. They will be able to take everything to Maggot's house or throw/give it away, but none of it will stay here. Their room has sat empty for over 4 months now, and DH feels that since they express zero interest in visitation, it's time to reclaim wasted space in the house.
Well, the Maggot has been granted her wish to move 3 hours away.
DH (with an attorney writing and filing the paperwork of course), allowed Maggot to move.
Because Maggot has PAS'd skids against DH and myself so badly that DH has pretty much given up on a relationship with skids.
He has tried and tried for 9 years, and Maggot has twisted everything he has ever said and done and brainwashed skids against him and against me with her incessant talking (aka lying).
Nothing Maggot has ever claimed about skids is true.
So Maggot is once again trying to move skids farther away from DH.
She has successfully completely alienated them against him (and me) over the past 9 years.
DH is planning on letting her move. He just has to go to court to protect himself (prevent Maggot from ever moving out of state or from ever being able to somehow get more money from him).
So last autumn, I deduced that OSS15 has been passive aggressively waiting around for me to attempt an in-depth conversation with him about ANYTHING so that he could turn it around on, play victim, and gaslight me.
Months went by where OSS15 would "lurk" around DH anytime I was also around, and where he would look at me like I'm nuts whenever I said the most simple of things, like "dinner is ready."
I was starting to suspect that maybe I had unfairly misjudged him or made unfairly negative speculations about him. In other words, I began to doubt my instincts.
It's here again steppers! Father's Day.
My skids have never once recognized DH on Father's Day in 9 years.
This year though, the Maggot wants to move 2 more hours away so she live with her brother (like the elderly couple in 8 Crazy Nights). He somehow scammed his way into a large house one block from the beach, and skids are excited. Who cares if it's in a drug infested town, right?
So Maggot already forced skids to actually recognize DH's birthday for the first time in history.
So if you've followed the horror trail of Maggot and skids' insertion into my life over my almost 4 years here, you will recall the immeasurable number of insane situations DH and I have had to deal with. From PAS to Munchaussen by Proxy to attempts to frame me or DD as "wrong/bad/fill in the blank with Maggot's latest attack word...
This is our first skid weekend since February (we locked down).
Skids are being great to DH! They wished him a happy birthday and they both, for the first time in their lives, actually gave DH a gift. YSS even hugged him goodnight.
...said the Maggot Queen today.
She has very much enjoyed DH's safety measures in not taking skids since late February. It fits her alienation agenda quite nicely.
But now that DH wants to see his kids this weekend, Maggot Queen is withholding them on account of her self-induced health issues making her more vulnerable to COVID-19.
...and yes, the title of this blog is a direct quote from one of her texts to DH.
I'm a bit stuck on this word.
Risk them getting better grades?
Risk them being allowed to play sports they want to play?
All this time I thought I got it. But I didn't.
I got to see tonight, first hand what it looks like when skids are not alienated.
A friend came over with his daughter and his SO of a few years now also brought her son.
The two kids played so nicely together! The SO told me that her son often asks when his stepsister is coming because he loves playing with her. It was really nice to see.
I'm guessing that offensive post was taken down while I wrote this reply?
THIS must be said:
You are taking many biblical passages out of context.
Jesus tore apart a temple in a fit of rage due to the material-loving, money-hungry marketplace that had taken over.
The bible also teaches us to use discernment.
Matthew 7:6 - Do not throw your pearls to swine
Matthew 10:16 - Behold, I send you out as sheep among wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves