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Submitted by iamlosingit on Mon, 06/04/2018 - 1:34pm

So on Friday I received a nasty email from "rich aunt".  It was long, but to summarize:

I am a POS for not helping out with my mom and brother

My dad is a POS for not being able to afford to rent a larger space to accommodate his now 24 y/o son

My other grandparents are a POS for not helping out with my brother.

My other aunt and her daughter have helped my mom in the past.

We (dad, me, dad parents) are horrible people for "not helping".

anxiety over summer schedule-vent

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Submitted by iamlosingit on Fri, 06/01/2018 - 9:36am

May was a great month, we had ss only 9 days and it was heaven! We got a lot of projects for the house done, kept up on grocery shopping, the house stayed clean (as long as I did the dishes once a day), enjoyed one another's company, actually went to a movie...I felt like I had a "husband" and not a roommate.

Now it is June...this weekend is our last skid-free weekend until the end of July. No more skid free weekends until 7/27. I just finished staring/recounting the calendar with dread three times to make sure I wasn't mistaken. 

when BM doesn't know the visitation schedule at ALL and tries to change plans last minute...

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Submitted by iamlosingit on Tue, 05/29/2018 - 3:17pm

So last week BM calls DH on Thursday prior (5/24) with the statement of "did you decide you aren't getting SS today?"

 No BM, we did not "decide" to not pick up SS today because WE DON'T  HAVE SS today, or this weekend. You would know this if you would simply TRY to follow/learn the visitation schedule that has been in place for over three damn years now. Oh that's right, I forgot, "you don't need to be following that because you are the mother"...

When DH reminded her of the schedule, BM was quick to follow with "ss wants to spend this weekend with you".

School i.d. for travel within the u.s.?

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Submitted by iamlosingit on Tue, 05/22/2018 - 11:02pm

 

BM "trip" with SS to CA is next week. She just called DH and word-for-word said "I need ss school i.d. from his picture packet..you know..in case something happens." She had the packet in her possession for 3 weeks and didn't take it. 

I swear Im beginning to think I really am losing it

NOW (drumroll please...) DH is paranoid she is going to "stage a kidnapping" in CA to prevent DH from seeing ss again.

Is it wrong to want ONE thing with DH that doesn't involve SS?- PT 2

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Submitted by iamlosingit on Tue, 05/22/2018 - 10:50am

Okay...so I just found out from my cousin-in-law that my DH basically invited himself/us and his sister's family to the cabin for the fourth of July..... my cousin had nothing to do with it.

I sent Cousin-in-law a message to let him know I bought some games to bring, and he responded "great! Let me know how many people are coming up as soon as possible because I know he (dh) invited his sisters family" 

I asked "what do you mean dh invited...he made it sound like it was your idea"

BM at it again...

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Submitted by iamlosingit on Wed, 05/09/2018 - 8:15am

SO...BM doesn't have the money to take DH back to court (but they have the money to fly to CA...whatev) but she wants MORE money so she can dictate where dh money is going.  Remember...no dh is allowed to have another life after BM, all his resources and time must be spent on ss, because HOW DARE YOU be happy after her! (yes, that is sarcasm)

OT- oh DH you better start praying...

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Submitted by iamlosingit on Sat, 05/05/2018 - 1:52pm

SO...I was so happy that DH actually PAID HIS PORTION ($90) Of the utilities this month.

He still owes me over $1000

We just got back from grocery shopping.

He suggested we paint the basement. I asked why? The whole purpose of the basement OVER TIME was to make it a "theater room" for our family.

He just told me he.bought.a.75.inch.flatscreen.tv.

For about $1200.

W T F

I'm going to kill him.

THIS is the exact reason why we DON'T HAVE A JOINT ACCOUNT.

He paid for it in the electronic section while I was grocery shopping.

Is it wrong to want ONE thing with DH that doesn't involve SS?

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Submitted by iamlosingit on Tue, 04/24/2018 - 3:03pm

I already have a feeling everyone is going to say "this is your fault; you knew he had a kid".  If that is going to be your response, please move along.  Trust me.  I know he had a kid.  What I didn't know was how "leechy" dh and ss would become the older ss got.  It creeps me out.  Plus, I'm tired and I had a $hitty birthday.  Let me vent, please. 

Just when I think I have my stress under control....

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Submitted by iamlosingit on Mon, 04/16/2018 - 10:35am

It's been awhile since my last post.

DH loaded up ss and we drove downtown to pick up my brother from the hospital.  To summarize his 3 day visit:

said he had no money

they released him without any medications, had to buy him pepto for his acid reflux when I only had $19 left in my account

He stayed up all hours of the night, was bummed that dh and I couldn't take any time off to "hang out with him"

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