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My Deceased Mothers Ex-Husband is SUCH a JACKWAD (venting...pissed off)

IAmALady77's picture

As some of you remember, my mother passed back in March, I was the last one to find out, her ex husband tried to cut me out completely (note: TRIED). I had to find out from the estate lawyer OVER THE PHONE.

Anyway, I stepped up, signed the executor papers as her next of kin and have been BUSTING ASS for over a month now sorting out her estate, getting things sold, paying off her debts...its a HUGE job.

Well, a few weeks ago I found out from the bank that I had EXACTLY 2 days to get everything out of the house because she hadn't made a mortgage payment since JANUARY and the bank was seizing the property. So I ran out and rented a uhaul, was in panic mode for TWO DAYS clearing the house, packed everything up and sent it to the auction house that SO's aunt owns.

THEN my mothers EX decides that "oh the girls (his daughters, my half sisters, both minors) want x.y and z.

okaaay. So I spent an entire day at the auction house digging everything out that they wanted and dropped it off at the lawyers so they could have it.

I even went ABOVE and BEYOND, when I was clearing the house, I found a moldy box in the garage that had the EX's old highschool photos and yearbooks, some personal items so I organized those and packed them up neatly in a nice box and ALSO sent those to the lawyer.

I found all the girls old artwork and a few costumes from talent shows, sent those as well.

WITHOUT BEING ASKED BECAUSE I AM A NICE PERSON. I could have EASILY just said fuck it and left them in the house!

Well TODAY I get a call from the lawyer because APPARENTLY her EX has been watching the auction site and he wants to "pull some things" that are sentimental.

What are the things you ask?

3 herman miller chairs that have the girls "nicknames" carved in the back.
And 2 seperate lots of "owl" things. Because apparently our mother collected owls.

umm no.

EVERYONE "collects" owls right now.

OWLS are super trendy jackass.

And herman miller chairs are not something you "forget about".

If they were REALLY That sentimental you would have a)taken them in the divorce or b) asked for them a MONTH AGO. NOT after they have been online for a week and have already been bid on with a day to go until close!!!!!!!!

I am sorry but I have been MORE than fair and accomodating to him and his spawn. The lawyer asked me what I wanted to do and I told him to rip the ex a new butthole. I signed a contract. He is more than welcome to bid on things that he wants and buy them but then the purchase price is getting taken off the girls portion of the estate.

SOOOOOO done with this bullshit.

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IAmALady77's picture

Thats exactly what I am doing. He WANTS me to fuck up somehow so he can take me to court to get me replaced. Jokes on you jackass I have kept IMPECCABLE records of EVERY thing I have done, receipts for every transaction, every penny has been accounted for.

herewegoagain's picture

His SPAWN? Or you mother's SPAWN? Why are you entitled to do whatever with your mother's things but her other daughters are not? Why would he have taken the chairs in the divorce if the things belonged to your mother's other daughters? Sorry, but if these girls are your mother's daughters, why were they not included in cleaning out the place? Or are these only HIS daughters?

IAmALady77's picture

yes spawn. Entitled, mean, spiteful spawn. I am the oldest and next of kin so legally her estate is MINE to take care of and divide as I see fit. I am liquifying everything and splitting the assets 3 ways. And the girls LIVED with him after the divorce. HE got full custody so if he/they really wanted them he should have taken them or at least let me know he wanted them BEFORE today. And they were not included because they are 15 and 17, want nothing to do with me (or our mother at that) and their father has not told them the truth of her passing. HE refuses to tell them that she commited suicide, I was the one who had to secure and clean a broken into blood spattered house.

I have explained my family situation before here: http://steptalk.org/node/144389

I'm not sure what I did to offend you but trust me I have done everything in my power to ensure they get their fair share despite how I have been and are continuing to be treated.

IAmALady77's picture

and they are his daughters. She had me before she married him. So they are my half sisters, his and hers.

IAmALady77's picture

AND I would also like to include that at the beginning of this whole process I TRIED to include them and they refused to meet with the lawyer with me. The LAW "entitles" me to take care of her estate and do with it as I please, which I have MADE SURE that everything is devided equally. I am simply pissed because I have been doing all of this PLUS SOME and the EX is purposefully being difficult.

IAmALady77's picture

not necessarily but then when they turned 18 they could come sue me for their thirds lol. I am not a vindictive person and I'm just venting it's not like I would ever say these things to THEM. It's just frusterating the lies that they have been told their entire lives and here I am trying to do the right thing and their dad just wants to be a jackass for no other reason than he can. And I shouldn't have called them spawn lol but these girls are going to be getting SS for her death PLUS the last 7 years of being coddled and given everything they ever wanted PLUS all the years of a perfectly normal happy childhood before that PLUS 2/3rds of the estate. Yeah, sometimes I get a little bitter but thats LIFE and I'm STILL being fair about it.

IAmALady77's picture

I don't feel very strong some days but thank you :/

I was HOPING that I could just take care of the estate and her debts, put their thirds in accounts for them for when they turn 18 and then just BE DONE with the lot of them, apparently that was too much to ask for since he wants to fight me every step of the way.