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I love dogs's picture

The investigator finally called DH back and is coming tomorrow morning around 10am. I will be at work. I organized a little and dusted the living room and cleaned the glass. Thank goodness I deep cleaned last weekend. DH just has to do the dishes and sweep in the morning. I was unnecessarily rude to DH this evening because of it but I've also been up since 4am and didn't get a nap and have to be up at 4am again tomorrow.

This investigator is apparently a state police officer and said he will do the walk through to "get the case closed". The CYFD lady in charge of the case told DH that she will also do a walk through and wants to talk to me. DH hasn't talked to SD and says he "feels betrayed". I am trying not to be bitter toward SD since she's a kid and I'm sure that she told her counselor about Thanksgiving in confidence but we know BM didn't tell them DH is a good dad and once again, DH's past is interrupting our lives.

On top of all of this, my back feels like a 90 year old woman and I have been nauseous/ averted from certain food because this growing baby is up in my ribs. 6 more weeks to go and I hope this is closed and doesn't need to be investigated further after she gets here.

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VNichol's picture

Take it one step at a time they are just doing their job and they are going to be thouroth about the questions. Once the have their findings they will close the case. It sounds very much like a spoiled brat seeking attention. She blew it way out if proportion and cps will see it. 

ImI'currently going through a cps case with bm as well. BM got herself arrested for Meth and DH called cps. We were all put under a fine tooth comb even myself. When they asked me my opoopin about BM i didbt bash her one bit but I did state facts about the lack of emotional and financial support she provides. She is back on supervised visits because she keep violating CPS rules and probation rules ( she got 2 years deffered justification instead of jail time) she is on thin ice with PO. The harassment, bullying, threats twards him and myself are out of control.  If I want to know something about her or her situation i ask him about it. Besides that iIdobt want her brought up in a conversation in this house. It just causes arguments between us. 

She has been blocked on ALL forms of communication with him until further notice from CPS. We don't keep ss from her as long as she comes to see him ansaits supervised by DH. Meaning she can stop by and see him when she likes but she dose about once every two weeks. 

Hang in there it will be over before you know it. 

I love dogs's picture

I wish we could just block BM from our lives. We all know week on/ week off will never work again but BM acts like she wants to "talk" even though she has willingly kept SD since this all started. I personally like the peace but I know DH is upset about it all. I just know that I don't want to be alone at home with her anymore, especially after the baby comes, I don't want to worry about her.

tog redux's picture

Yeah, this is a tough situation. Once the kid starts lying (if she did) and it gets you and DH in trouble, it becomes harder and harder, at least it was for me with SS. 

I do think your DH has to get some kind of formal court order, even it is just EOWE, so BM can't yank his chain all the time.