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Well, after the week I've had...I'm hoping that tonight will be a bonding night for the three of us.
This is my first blog, let me give you a window into my life...
My fiance and I have been together for 3.5 years and since then we moved in together about 2 years ago, we were engaged last February, and we bought a house in April. I'm a full-time student finishing up my BS in Elementary Education. I will be graduating in May.
My fiance and I have a wonderful relationship...he's the love of my life! We do not have any children of our own and I have grown to love SS14 as my own. He spends most of his time with me. His BM gave us custody and she has many, many issues that I do not have time to mention, but needless to say she has made it her job to mess that poor child's life! She thinks she's hurting us, but the one person she's truly messing up is her son :0(
Things happen in cycles around here. Recently, we've moved to a different town, my SS14 is in a new school and for the most part he is really excited about it...until now. I knew this would happen...now that summer's over and we're back into a schedule of chores and homework, etc... he hates his life and thinks that his dad is too stricked...because of me!
I must say, I do check his homework, tell him to take the garbage out, make his bed, shower and brush his teeth. He absolutely hates it when I tell him to do anything! So, who does he run to...his BM. She then play "super mom" and asks him if he'd like to move in with her! She doesn't even want him! Anyway, now my fiance and I have to deal with his confusion and tantrums because she goes against everything we advise. So SS14 is on a fighting streak and tells his BF that I'm mean and don't treat him right. He also tries to play mind games and asks his BF why do I make all of the decisions why can't he (his BF) makes decisions too? "Are you grilling hamburgers because you want to grill hamburgers, daddy, or are you grilling hamburger because SM (me) told you to?" "have you picked out any decorations in this house daddy? or just SM?
Its endless...
What do I do with a child who had ADHD, very low self esteem, feels abandoned by his mother, and thinks that his father loves me more than him?

So confused...