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This is really immaterial but I find it funny and ironic!

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My ss draws a check due to dh's disability. MIL was getting it sent directly to her as that is where he lived. Prior to that it came to the bm as he lived with her. With him moving in with us we had to get it changed. My dh cannot be his payee as dh is not even his own payee (I am)so we had to make me ss's representative payee. Again, it's immaterial-I am all my kids payee-their checks go into our joint account which we use for bills except a portion that we save for them and transfer into savings accounts-we will set up the same system for ss.

Why is he ALWAYS around and in trouble the first 24 hours...

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So ss has been living with us since Tuesday afternoon. Less than 48 hours. I have to say that my dh has really done a good job of staying on top of things, addressing them, delivering consequences, laying down rules-I really have 0 complaints about anything my dh is doing in regards to ss. So I should be happy, right?

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not feeling too positively about this first night that ss is with us. We had an event with my dd10 tonight so I rushed home from work and had 15 min to change, pee, eat, and go. The house was chaos. DS, SS, and ds's friend were all downstairs where I just told dh over the weekend that I did not want the kids going down there unless invited or supervised. In fact I told him 2 or 3 different times-we have a pretty big house and I like to have some space to the adults.

Should dh file for cs or not?

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So anywho-there's a long convoluted history here-but my dh has always had sole custody of ss since age 1. BM started paying cs when he was 6 because dh finally got around to filing for it. At 9.5 ss moved in with bm. We didnt change anything custody wise as dh was supposed to return in a year. So she simply stopped paying and we paid her the amount that she had paid. Well, dh ended up not living in our home full time for 4 years due to injuries and such.

SS moving in this week..

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So if anyone has read my blogs there's been alot of drama and quite frankly trauma associated with this move. After the smoke cleared on Saturday-dh came home and brought ss with him. He stayed til last night-and will go back to school today to disenroll, say goodbye-all that good stuff and will be enrolling in our school district and moving in this week.

Do you ever stop and wonder is this really my life?

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I can't believe I am 40 years old and this is my life. I don't mean to sound ungrateful I have 3 good kids, a decent job, and my Parents who are well and close by- but evidently I'm not meant for a relationship. I've got one dead husband and another I just wish were dead. I am back posting on my old blog because who the hell really cares? As far as I'm concerned shit can't really deteriorate anymore than they already have. On my other blog I posted about ss coming to live with us and how that all went down yesterday.

HI DH!! Thought I'd send you a message on here since you have been reading my blogs...

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Sooo just found out this morning my dh has been reading my blogs. I have gone back and deleted some of them-will get to the rest later. Thought about changing my user name-then thought what the heck I've got nothing to hide! If he wants to listen into our conversations maybe he will learn something.

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