How to make these kids grow up...
Seriously. I need some advice here. My ss14 is sooo immature. It drives me nuts on a personal level and it creates all sorts of issues for him as well. And it creates issues for my dh as well. But how to go about making him act his age? This morning he was singing as he was getting ready, kicking things across the floor, dancing around, talking to himself in a baby voice. I'm like WTF? Do 14 year old boys really act this way? I have a 14 year old girl that would never do any of this stuff. My ds is 12-he would neer do that stuff nor would my 10 year old dd. His maturity level is closest to that of my 10 year old and frankly I think she is more mature than he is. However, he gravitates toward her as the other kids are doing more "teen" type things and they cant handle spending too much time with him because he is so immature. My dd10 is the only one that can tolerate him for more than a few minutes. She had a guest here for 15 minutes yesterday-ss insisted on being on the trampoline with them-what 14 year old boy wants to hang out with two 10 year old girls? Weird.
He has not yet made any friends since moving here (he knew alot of the kids already as he lived here in elementary school). He has been spending some time with a couple of kids that are a grade below him. So socially he is pretty much an outcast because he is so immature. My dh has a big dependent baby on his hands due to his immaturity. He cannot think ahead for anything, plan, take responsibility. Every stinking morning he gets in the shower and then is yelling for dh to bring him a towel. He wants someone to sit with him and walk him through his schoolwork. He freaked out the other night because he thought we were going to leave him home alone for a few hours. Told us we "HAD" to take him with us.
MY 14 year old dd-has a job for goodness sake. SS cant get one due to poor grades and quite frankly I am certain he would be fired because he cannot follow directions or be responsible. So how do you "teach" someone to be mature?