OT-update to CS stopped/started FIASCO
So get this...DH calls CSE office...they tell him that he is NOW BEHIND...go figure! Morons they are...you see, he DOES have a credit, but because he gets paid every two weeks, some months the CS is less than the monthly ordered (this is how THEY calculate it) and some months CS is well over the CS for the month. Anyway, they now claim he is behind, which I do not agree. But they tell him, yes, get this..."that EVEN IF THEY MISCALCULATED, EVEN IF THEY STOPPED THE GARNISHMENT HE IS STILL LIABLE FOR NOW!" Freaking morons! I am ready to lose it!
I had to call my mom because she has been through this mess for years with us and was so happy when it stopped. I made sure she understood I do NOT EVER want that crotch dropping or his mother in my house EVER AGAIN. She has protected those losers telling me I need to be understanding...understanding MY A$%$!
So here we are again trying to calculate the freaking amounts ourselves to PROVE TO THESE MORONS who can't do math that he is not behind except for the fact that because he gets paid bi-weekly and that is how THEY have taken the CS out, it looks that way...I hate these people. I just hate these people.
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how much more do they say he
how much more do they say he owes?
idiots told him "they would
idiots told him "they would send him a letter"...sigh...what a nightmare!
In our case the court took
In our case the court took some payments but didn't record them, to the tune of $800. We submitted copies of the original CO, the paystubs with the garnishments, and a certified letter from BM saying she received the money.
They withheld our tax return to make up for the "missed" payments. Then, they looked at BM's letter and realized she had already received the money, so they didn't give it to her.
$800 straight into the state's pocket. They eventually sent us a letter that our final appeal was denied and we'd have to go to court to see that money. Unfortunately, not worth it after the court fees.
Oh wow, I feel for you! I am
Oh wow, I feel for you! I am NOT surprised though. We had CS stopped a few weeks ago, but they are still garnishing DH's wages. However, it goes to a separate account, not BM. She has not received money for these weeks,which is how it should be.
We received a letter stating the support has been terminated, BUT BM has the right to initiate a new claim if she decides she should get support again-she needs a reason. Basically, if DH's son decides to enroll in college (highly doubtful, but you never know), DH will be ordered to pay again.
I hope you get this straightened out. It sounds ridiculous. How long will you have to wait for this letter? UGH.
Ending CS is NOT an easy process. If DH had not petitioned the court, they would have NEVER stopped taking it out of his pay.
I hear you HelpMeeee! This
I hear you HelpMeeee! This system is not good for kids or non-custodial parents. It's disgusting. It would take a lot for the laws to change.
Well, as far as the money
Well, as far as the money when taken bi-weekly not meeting the full monthly CS amount, you know what? Too bad for BM. Had she not been the loser she is, DH would have continued to pay her the monthly amount in full as he had always done...but no, she wanted to buy a house and count that CS as income (one she could NOT afford and lost less than 8 months later) and now she can't complain. There are months he pays MUCH MORE than he is ordered and others less...not really our problem. She needs to learn to budget, just like we have had to the months she gets more than her monthly check.
Anyway, it is ridiculous. Believe me I understand both sides of it. It just ticks me off that they always seem to screw the person who does the right thing and it is NEVER the BM...always the father.
Here is a different spin on
Here is a different spin on it. I receive cs and spousal. The ex is $6000 in arrears. The only reason he is behind, he felt like not paying when I moved in with my boyfriend. I quit my job, went back to school, watch my bf's kid for him to save him money, and am now one class away from my nursing degree. The depart of cs doesn't take out the full amount so the ex goes in arrears every month. He likes to get on me for how it is spent, tries to tell me how to spend the spousal. Our kids have everything. Just spent over $600 getting the ready for school. I was short, bf covered the rest. Guess what will happen if I ever get the arrears?? It is going to my boyfriend.. He is the one that covers my kids every month. Yes, I don't work but am goin to school to make something of myself. The biodad has the money to be a Disney dad and an entertainment director but not pay his support. I have been the one to go without so my kids eat. Before I met my boyfriend, I was workin and still had to pawn my personal property to feed my kids. The ex even wanted to have arrears waved because he had to buy new furniture lol!!! Really?? Other than the kids rooms we split everything, I took the chair and love seat, he got the couch, I took the kitchen table he took the dinning table. I still have and use the furniture.. He had to go buy all new stuff and that means the children should go without?? He has never once contributed to back to school , even when we were together my student loans got our kids and his ready for school.
Yes, I have extras now, yes I bought a BBQ grill, yes I have some new clothes for myself... All because my boyfriend covers everything else ...
I commend you for going to
I commend you for going to getting a degree, but why can't NCPs do the same? My DH got a better paying job thanks to ME sacrificing, why should HIS kid benefit while OURs does without? Ours did without the entire time my DH was doing something to better himself and the witch just continued to pop babies out and taught her loser daughter how to do the same...And why do you feel entitled to spousal support if you live with someone else? Why is it your ex's job to support you financially if you are living with someone else? Sorry, I don't get that.
I do agree my children should
I do agree my children should be just as important as future child. All are their father responsiblity.
Spousal support is issued for the next 4 years, because I had to put my degree on hold, move states with him, and took care of his kid. I have a RO against the ex. He made it impossible to go to school, when he was suppose to have the kids so I could go ( his 1 our 2) something would come up and e couldn't make it home. Maybe I'm wrong, but if I raised a child that wasn't mine to get him ahead in life, why can't he give me the same??