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OT-I have to get out of here! These people will drive me insane!

herewegoagain's picture

Oh my, why did I ever agree to come here...geez...This crazy MIL is going to drive me nuts! Some things that have happened...

1. we were told we didn't have to pay rent, instead we agreed to pay water/electricity for 3 houses which is equivalent to their normal rent charge
2. we received bills for water/electricity within 2 weeks of arriving that were for the prior month to us being here (both were higher than ANY OTHER bills we have received since)
3. we pay water/electricity, yet the crazy mil complains when I clean outside and hose the porch (her dogs poop all over the porch and my dog has already had parasites directly related to the uncleanliness of this dump...that was over 300USD and our dog lost over 5lbs-she's only 18lbs)
4. we can't wash clothes/dry clothes as much as we used to so that crazy woman doesn't complain about the water/electricity bills, although again, we pay them...now she uses the drier constantly...go figure...
5. the place was supposed to have a fridge, a stove, a full size bed, a twin size bed and a TV
a. the fridge was a dorm room type fridge, not a regular fridge
b. the stove is gas and so old when turned on the entire house smells like gas...we had to buy a rice cooke and single burner to cook
c. the twin size bed was removed within a month of arriving because IT WASN"T THEIRS!
d. the TV only works with cable, so we had to get cable...no choice
6. they have a bird on OUR porch that I have to clean the cage for and feed because they NEVER do it and it was creating little moths and our clothes which are in the room closest to it were getting eaten by moths...have had to buy tons of clothes now...
7. the washer has no hot water, only cold water...so can't even really clean the moth infested clothes...
8. we can't go out because she complains that our dog barks, yet we have proven over and over that she ONLY barks when she hears noises right outside the house...they continue to deny it...by the way, they have 4 dogs who are put right outside where we are at and bark all night long...we can't sleep, we just suck it up...so now we have to pay and put our dog in a kennel anytime we want to go out for more than an hour or so or if we make any plans to go out at night
9. on ONE SATURDAY we got home late and it was the night of a boxing match, most people were up...they complained cause we were too loud...but yes, they have a building on THEIR PROPERTY closer to our house that they rent out for 350+ for parties and that noise never bothers them even though there is music blasting all night...
10. they have a cat, the poor cat is always getting beat up by stray cats and even when the cat has been hurt, they do NOTHING...
11. the cat had kittens, I kept telling the crazy woman that they were in danger because stray dogs and cats come at night and I am always having to go out to stop the fights, etc...well, kittens disappeared one by one...of course, guess who they blamed? Yes, they blamed MY HUSBAND claiming that they just KNEW that they probably hid under his car and he drove off with them...sure...last two cats disappeared a weekened we were NOT EVEN HERE...but no apology for the accusations
12. Oh yes, I have to feed the little bird...they never feed the poor thing...he runs out of water and food all the time, after about 1 1/2 months, I got fed up and now I have one more job on my plate, in addition to my dog and kid...go figure
13. crazy woman is ALWAYS putting down my DHs bio-dad...30+ years after their divorce and she still has to bring him up and talk bad about him (the guy never remarried or had any other kids...interesting huh?)
14. mil has YELLED at our son a couple of times until my DH finally told her to leave the parenting to US...we don't mind if he is breaking something, but by the way, he never has broken anything in our place EVER...somehow, anything that is broken in her place is his fault...even though she's never seen him break anything and I am with him and on his butt the entire time he is not inside this dump
15. we had to take out the closet in the house because it was full of termites...she gave us NO MONEY to fix up the place, that's our problem

and the freaking list goes on and on and on...I am about to lose it!

I had not told my parents as I did not want to worry them, but they are coming to visit next week and I didn't want them here in the middle of this mess, so I had to tell them...at least, they are very supportive...sigh...

And then we deal with the preggo crazy 15yr old MIDDLE SCHOOL DROPOUT...yikes...sigh...

Sorry, I have to vent...I am truly just worn out...

We thought we'd stay here and suck it up until our house was ready to save some money, but we just can't do it anymore...I feel like I am going to lose it...

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onehappygirl's picture

Good luck finding something. That sounds like an absolute nightmare!!!
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stepmom31's picture

Sorry to hear about it all.

I'm sorta in the same boat.

We're living with DH's parents and my MIL is driving me crazy!
It's mostly to do with the way she's trying to take over my baby, and make me feel like I know absolutely nothing about taking care of her, that baby loves grandma most and I'm just there to give her milk.

I think I've been harassing my DH so much that he finally caved and agreed to move out soon. We're going to rent and the house will have to wait.

It's really a predicament when family is supposed to be helping. You always have to play "happy" and give them their way because you're thankful for the help you're getting.

My own mum said though, that sanity is more important than money, and advised I move out - F*A*S*T.

Here's a joke for ya:
I saw six men kicking and punching the mother-in-law. My neighbor said 'Are you going to help?' I said 'No, six should be enough.' ~Les Dawson

Stay sane!! Smile

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stepmom2one's picture

it sounds like you need to rent an apt for a few months till the house is done. The stress seems to be to much, it would be for me.