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Helpless0987's picture

I completely get how important it is to have 1 on 1 time father and son BUT there's gotta be something wrong with this kid ss10 never wants to do anything alone ever. He's always up daddy's A**! there's no bedtime so even a moment of privacy between u's doesn't exist when he's here. When I was 10 I remeber playing outside with forends Amd with my toys-- this kid does none of that he wants to watch tv with u's fine crys when it's not what he wants to watch, and then talks thru the entire show bc he is so afraid his dad is paying attention to the tv Amd not him then starts acting out when he doesn't get the reaction from his dad he wants when his dad asks him to play in his room if he doesn't like what he's watching on tv he pretends like he's afraid to be in there alone. I feel suffocated. There has to be some sort of space the only space ingot is when WE go to bed. I just don't seem to think it's normal for an10 yr old boy to act like that his dad gives him plenty of attention and plenty of 1 on 1 time it seems like he could have 23 hours in a day of attention on him Amd that last hour of missing attention would cause a brat fit is this some kind of personality disorder or something

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briarmommy's picture

SS was like this to with everyone, any adult in the room he wanted to be the center of attention all the time. He couldn't bare to be alone ever, he couldn't play with his toys all he wanted to do was watch tv, play video games, and hang on everybody. DH and I nipped that in the bud, its important for kids to have time with there parents but they also need to learn independence. My SS can now play with toys and is limited to an hour of tv time a day, he also can't just sit and watch other peoples tv time, he goes and reads a book or plays. It was rough at first and he would constently say...I'M BORED...but once he realized we weren't giving in he learned to occupy himself.

joanie's picture

has anyone cured this? because the Kid does this a lot as well. Annoying as all hell!

Compassion's picture

Bed time is really important. Our kid doesn't have to go to sleep, but she has to be in her room by 9:30 (unless we are all doing something together like watching a movie/playing board games).

Soon-to-be-Step-Mommy's picture

My SD8 is the same. She does NOT know how to entertain herself. She is up mine and her fathers asses whenever she is at our house. We have to MAKE her go into her room for an hour or so on the weekend days telling her we are each taking our own private time to relax. DH in front of the big screen, me in our room reading, her in her bedroom...and she will come out every 5 minutes wanting to show us or tell us something. It is so frustrating. When we go into our bedroom and close the door to change clothes she knocks on it almost instantly. DH has actually been speaking to her about it lately but it hasn't clicked with her yet. I remember playing in my room with barbies or reading books or riding my bicycle all day when I was little!

Soon-to-be-Step-Mommy's picture

Oh and bedtime is a MUST!! 8:30 on school nights which means in bed by 8:15 for a bedtime story. I count down the hours til bedtime..it's the only few hours of free time we have when skid is with us!!

Selene's picture

I agree. My SD's school start time is earlier this year, so I am excited at the possible prospect of my DH enforcing an earlier bedtime for them. When school is in session, he is pretty strict about bedtime since SD has to do some studying. Usually between 7:30-7:45 pm, they have to start getting ready for bed. They can each read a book before lights out around 8:00 pm or so.

Selene's picture

OMG yes, I can totally relate to this. My SD is 9 and SS will be 5 next month. I've NEVER wanted kids and won't be having any; 24/7 parenthood seems like an inescapable prison to me. The step kids and I get along, but they annoy the daylights out of me. It's as if someone has to be paying complete attention to them every waking moment. My DH and his ex-wife and everyone else pander to these kids so much and I just can't do it! My SS is an "ass shadow" too; sometimes my SD is too, but not all the time. I hate when either or both of them follow my DH or me around the house. I swear that as soon as any door shuts in the house for any reason, SS is right there trying to barge in due to his ridiculous co-dependency.

My DH and his ex-wife split custody 50/50. During the times the kids are at our house, I count down the hours until they are gone again. I get depressed mid-week when the kids come back to us and are going to be with us for the upcoming weekend. Their constant need for attention is so annoying. I can't wait until they are teens when they are into their OWN things and don't want to be around adults (hoping that happens, although based on these few comments, some of you have teens that are still attention wh*res). Right now, these kids are like a full-time enema!

Helpless0987's picture

Omg I agree with all of you!!! I just can't recall being that age and not finding something better to do than hang out with my parents. That was a last resort for me at that age. Family time is important but omg when your tired and worn out after say like a family day at the zoo and the kid is still up your ass practically as mean as it sounds u just want to tell them to go find something to do!!! But every 5 seconds watch me do this check this out can I have a drink? Now really we don't ask for drinks at our house we just get them.... STOP talking just to hear yourself and when u either ignore him or explain that your busy u will get with him in a few that's when the bad attitude starts and he picks fights. The only thing i have came up with it's gotta be some type of personality disorder in a kid it just doesn't seem normal lol.