Adult BPD Stepdaughter Destroying our marriage
In a nutshell,
My adult stepdaughter (I'll call her TJ) has wreaked havoc on my marriage. Her mother (I'll call her CT) has been diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic. CT has caused severe damage to their 4 children in forms parental alienation, false accusations of imagined abandonment by their father, as well as horrific allegations of sexual abuse, lies and manipulation as well as children witnessing symptoms of paranoid schizophrenia and finally neglect. This mental illness caused loss of child custody for my husband for his children 8 years ago.
Recently my husband won 100% physical and legal custody of his only minor child left (I'll call her L), due to schizophrenic CT's now proven neglect. However, judge ordered shared temporary physical custody between my husband and TJ, his adult daughter ( L's oldest sister) until everyone involved receives counseling to help L adjust to living 100% of time with my husband and myself.
Seems like a plan, right? Not if that adult daughter seems to exhibit same behaviors as her mother, and from what I can assess, many qualities of Borderline Personality Disorder.
The false accusations and twisting of reality from TJ is not only making shared custody extremely difficult but is putting my family in danger.
Just last night she called the police accusing my husband of trespassing at her house and we woke up to three officers banging at our door.
I have absolutely no doubt that she will do whatever she can to "make our life a living hell" (HER WORDS SCREAMED AT HER FATHER)
3 months ago, after the final Court Order and witnessing TJ twist-off at her dad on the stand with ridiculous lies and twisted versions of stories about both of us, I finally told my husband that I NEVER want to see TJ or her family again and that I would no longer allow L to be in my home, around me or my own 16-year-old son, obviously to protect me and my son from TJ's further abuse. I have since stood my ground. (This is after 8 years of dealing with her public slander of me, abuse, legal threats and rage toward me).
I feel completely alone, I don't feel like my husband has protected me from TJ or her family. I understand he is in an extremely difficult situation of having to try to be civil with TJ in order to successfully share her younger sister, his daughter, L with him. Meanwhile, TJ hasn't even begun the process of the judges ordered therapy. My husband says he understands why I drew the line, but I believe this will be the beginning of the end of our marriage and that he will resent me for protecting my son and myself from the dangers of his horrible family.
Of course there is much, much more to this story, I just need someone out there who has gone through this same Hell...and perhaps give me some words of advice or just make me feel like I am not alone.