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Closet update

Hastings's picture

So, yesterday DH finally had a talk with SS about the closet incident. SS admitted to doing it. Said he was asleep and woke up in the closet. I guess sleep walking? I've known some people who did some pretty odd things while asleep.

Whatever. I asked DH, "so, what was his explanation for not cleaning it up?" Blanks stare. "Oh. I didn't ask that."

Good grief. I told him that whatever the reason behind the incident, SS needs to learn to own up to things and to CLEAN IT UP. Consequences. Punishment. Something. He does whatever and there's NO follow-up.

DH was also griping because SS was complaining to him yesterday that he never gets to do fun stuff because DH and BM work. DH felt SS was being ungrateful and expecting adults to entertain him. Well, yeah. Why would he think differently?

I asked if DH explained the whole "adults have to work to pay for stuff" and "it's not other people's job to entertain you" talk. Or the old classic: if he's bored, give him something yo do (like scrubbing toilets and sweeping floors) and he'll stop being bored and pestering you when you're working. Nope.

SS is spoiled and entitled but DH's aversion to actually dealing with problems is what's about to drive me up the wall!

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SteppedOut's picture

I am a regular sleepwalker, as are many people on my paternal side as well as my brother and both children. So I get sleepwalking. I also have to get up and use the bathroom in the niddle of the night - to pee. 

How many people (when not sick) wake up in the middle of the night to poop? Maybe I am wrong, but that sounds like an excuse/lie. 

And as previously mentioned, even if it is what happened - at a minimum, he should have told his dad what happened and not just left it there. He is old enough to know leaving poop in the closet is not anywhere near the realm of ok. 

I know you have disengaged, but this is your home too. You shouldn't have to worry about poop laying around. I would 100% step out of disengagement for this. Seems as though you HAVE to since your husband is only half ass handeling it.