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Stepson says "no" to everything...

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I don't know what to make out of this situation...Everytime I offer stepson snacks for school, or anything for that matter, his answer is always "NO." I don't know what to make out of it, I don't know if biomom is telling him not to accept anything from me or what. I feel like a bad stepmom, when all I do is be nice to him.

Talk about Bday Parties....

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I plan on having a bday party for my daughter, however stepson bday also falls in the same month as my daughter. I would like to include his celebration also w/my daughter's. I don't know if I should combine the two because I will not be inviting any of stepson's friends or family on biomom side. It is a bit difficult to deal with if biomom side is included. If I don't include them then I feel bad for stepson. I would only invite my family and a few of daughter's friends. I don't know any of stepson's friends. And I know he would like his mom to be included too.

Best Mother's Gift...

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Just wanted to share this with you all, it just reminded me of how much I love my 5 year old daughter. For mother's day she gave me a laminated poster of a poem and her handprints all over it and even drew herself on the poster. She also made this little collage for me and she wrote: My Mom is happy, she likes to play, she always gives me a bath, sometimes she watches TV. But the best thing about my Mom is "She likes me." When I read that I was so happy and proud of her. I just love her more than anything...

Father's Day coming up, what to do?

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Just thought I get your opinion on this. Father's day is coming up next month, it looks like stepson will be w/biomom that weekend. I wanted to take my husband w/kids to dinner for Father's day. I also wanted to include stepson to dinner, would you invite biomom to dinner too since stepson is going to be her that weekend? What would you do? I don't have a close relationship w/biomom, I just feel like if I invite her she might end up getting jealous and see that our life is good and what would the conversation be like? I don't know what to talk about with her? Need your input.

What's with the constant switching of schedule!

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I can't stand the biomom! She always wants to switch weekends and/or days that we have him. I don't understand why she does this all the time, does she do this to irritate us or break the cycle of letting us see my stepson? The schedule is so not steady. We only see him 8 times a month and yet she has to screw up the flow. I believe in seeing our stepson as scheduled and not break up the weekend because she wants to switch all the time. I already feel that we don't see him enough and then on top of that break the schedule flow. Has anyone been in this situation?

...Biomom has been quiet lately, oh, oh, I know I think she might have a boyfriend now!

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Hahahahaha, I think she has a boyfriend now cause we are not getting nagged on too much from her since last month. This is a good feeling, no more nagging emailsf from her and her stupid demands and comments. Knock on wood, it might not last long...

...You gotta do the fixing....

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I just realized that when things don't get better, you, "yourself" must have to deal with the ex or stepchild. We can't always rely on our other half (spouse/BF) to the do the talking for us to straighten things out the way we want it to be. We need to stand up for ourselves and tell them straight in their face. I'm sick of having my husband talk to ex or stepson about my concerns, no more middle person. Ultimately the problem that needs to get fixed affects the whole family and YES I'm part of the family so I get to say what I need to say.

...I don't want to share my husband!

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I just can't stand it when I have to share my husband with that wicked exwife. I know that they discuss issues about their son and all but I just can't stand that. I didn't realize at the beginning that this was going to affect me big time...with his exwife in the picture and the child ignoring me. Everytime I see my stepson, his actions remind me of HER! UGHHHH! How should I handle my feelings?

"I Just Got Nothing to Say To Her When I See Her"

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Were you all ever been in this situation when you see the exwife/biomom at times and you just got nothing to say to her! My daughter and stepson had a swim class together one summer and biomom would come when we don't have him to the classes and she and I would just sit there next to each other and have no conversation really, I just can't seem to talk to her or don't care to. I don't know why, I'm pretty much outgoing kinda person and even with strangers I can stir up something to say. One day she was talking about buying this brand name shirt for her son...

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