Talk about Bday Parties....
I plan on having a bday party for my daughter, however stepson bday also falls in the same month as my daughter. I would like to include his celebration also w/my daughter's. I don't know if I should combine the two because I will not be inviting any of stepson's friends or family on biomom side. It is a bit difficult to deal with if biomom side is included. If I don't include them then I feel bad for stepson. I would only invite my family and a few of daughter's friends. I don't know any of stepson's friends. And I know he would like his mom to be included too. I can't invite his mom cause my family's tradition do not approve of inviting exs in family parties. Then if I don't include stepson, I feel bad too. What would you do?
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Given that situation
Given that situation, I think that it might be best to not have the parties together. Maybe if you don't want to do a party, maybe stepson could pick something else to do or go for a day.
I don't really think it would feel like it was his party if he didn't get to invite any of his friends.
Of course in our situation, we would never invite biomom to any party!! Stepson always has a party here and then does something at his mom's house on a day that she has him.
Dawn
I definately want to have
I definately want to have this party for my daughter, I don't know whether to have it on a weekend w/out stepson. Then, I wouldn't be able to invite him. And not worry about stepson and just have his biomom plan his side. Don't know....
Feeling bad
I know how you feel when you said you would feel bad, I do also.
I had a birthday party for my ss and it was very very difficult i had it at a bowling alley and i put alot of time into and with no help from biomom- first she said she would help then she said she couldn't so 2 of his friends showed up and i had to pay for 10 people bowling!!!
I also feel guilty about doing things with my children when my step children are there and i have been told that i shouldn't. There is things that they do that don't include us and then there are things we do that don't include them. I know that sounds harsh but it is a little easier. I would stress myself out trying to include them and in the end I was ignoring my own.
hope this helps
Thanks for you input girls,
Thanks for you input girls, I'm still undecided on what to do. My husband is no help either, he'll just say no parties, he himself don't care for parties at all or any celebration in fact. So he is no help. I'll have her party, don't know if we have stepson, if we don't then I'll just invite him and his mom to my daughter's party...and hope for the best.