Money and adult stepkids
Money is always a hot and sensitive issue. How do you deal when you know your husband sneaks and pays for lots of things for and gives money to the stepkids without talking to you? How do you just try to accept that he is going to give them money (big $ sometimes) and yet you are not included in any of that, knowing if you don’t like him doing that (which I’ve said) he will still figure out a way to sneak and give them money and pay for lots of things, big gifts etc.anyway. Some of it maybe his money but the rest of it is our money that he doesn’t tell me about and finds a way to conceal from me.
To me it seems like husband wants to overindulge his adult children. Not sure what that’s all about?
I just dislike that he spends what I think is way too much money on his adult kids that hate me and won’t have anything to do with me and I have to pretend I don’t know he gives them money or pays for big ticket items for them. He knows I hate spending/giving them too much $, I’ve told him that many times but it doesn’t seem to matter as he finds a way to sneak and give them money anyway and they find a way to always need or expect something.
Money issues with stepkids, especially I think adult stepkids is tough! Younger SKIDS I think may be easier to accept $’s needing to go that way and I tried to do that more at that time when they were younger. But now as adults in there late 20’s and 30’s when does it become too much?