How much is too much?
So my husband announces he wants to spend 4 days a month, every month with his kids. Adult kids and grandchildren. They will not have anything to do with me and most likely glad they don’t have to see me since they have chosen to disinclude and or not deal with me anymore (long story but really no huge issues just I spoke up for once about what I considered some disrespect and instead of us talking about it, they just cut me off). Given that I am not included and am suppose to be okay with it all, and focus on the 26 days I get him every month.
He feels like this is a totally reasonable request and I should be okay with it. We live a thousand miles a apart so every times he visits he’s gone for at least 4 days. I keep myself busy while he is away and fill my life with other things. But is it just me or does this seem like a lot? He says he would like to spend more time than that with them but given the miles he thinks at least 4 days a month seems reasonable.
Am I overreacting or should I just accept and deal with his decision? Seems like he has already decided, so not sure if there is any more discussion to be had, he just wants to know how we can both deal with that decision better. Not sure if i should should just grin and bare it or? How best to deal or accept? Am I just being an unreasonable bitch? Should I just accept his decision?
Confused and caught in the middle