Update to AITA ....ie my mother
Well, I had about enough of her shenanigans....and let her have it today.
Asked her what exactly she wanted me or my sister to do about there situation? Like what...her response..I just want some sympathy.
Ok....we have given you sympathy....yep my Dad is not easy to live with...but what exactly does us giving you "sympathy" look like....there is a difference between sympathy and wanting us to solve the issue and or side with you againg my Dad. Not gonna happen...she didn't have a response to that one.
Then I got..."oh ok then I won't tell you about your father."
OK sounds good....
Then I asked about the cats....and got she is taking them to the vet tomorrow to have them put down. (one is like 19 years old....she is old and probably not long for this world..but other isn't). I told her she is being ridiculous but I couldn't stop her if that is what she wanted to do. That she would have to live with it..not me. I thought it was a stupid idea instead of just listening to my sister THE VET.
Then she moved onto she doesn't want to live...(I gotta thank my ex for the training on this one). I told her if that is true then I would be calling the police and I would have her committed. My mom then through out that is what your father tells me too. Well no kidding mom..if you threatened to kill yourself most people will call to have you commited. I told her she needs to get a therapist and work on these issues and/or have her meds adjusted. I also told her to quit trying to gaslight me..I have had enough of that shit to last a lifetime.
After the sucide tactic didn't work, it was tell me my Dad is constantly telling her what she does wrong all day long. That may be true..my Dad bitches about a lot of stuff. I told her..ignore what my Dad says and do what you want. Her response...your Dad will get mad. My response...he will get mad either way...so either you do what want and be a little bit happy or don't ignore him and be miserable. Your choice...he is who he is....either deal with or not.
Alot of what I heard was....your dad will get mad...your dad doesn't like it when I do x...your dad doesn't blah blah blah...total victim mode. I told her who cares what he likes or dislikes...what is he going to divorce you? Good luck on that one..and if he does...well then your problem is sovled.
Last but not least she is determined to torpedo her relationship with my DD by telling my DD she shouldn't have anything to with her father and how dare she expect me to pay for everything for her. (for the record my DD feels awful that her father doesn't pay for anything but hasn't reached the stage where she can stand up to him. ) So...this will only make my DD upset and my DD will pull away from her. I told my mother I don't this is a good idea but its up to her. I got...what I'm not entiled to my opinion. Oh your entitled to one...but you just maybe shouldn't tell everyone your opinion and if you do be prepared to accept the consequences.
So...I'm guessing I won't hear from her for awhile. I did give my sister a heads up that I finally told my mother she needs help and stop with the drama. My sisters response was "Wow you've got a set a balls. I just ignore her when she starts her shit since I just can't deal with it."