NTSR..not step related..but inlaw related...Do you manage the relationships with your inlaws
In my case..nope. I have enough of a time in managing my relationship with own family. I think it's my Dh's responsibilty to mange the relationships with his parents/siblings etc.
Dh does not really like his parents. He likes his sister..she is a gem. Detests his methhead brother. His Dad is an on/off active alcohlic and his mom is an grade A enabler.
I think my MIL thought I would take over the reigns and manage that relationship. Uhm..no....plus while my MIL is nice and all she gets on my nerves. She is very into her religion...great for her. She assumed that I would be the one to bring DH back into the fold so to speak. That assumption couldn't be more wrong. I was the last person that would do that. Therefore, I keep my interaction to minimum. My MIL also is the antithesis of what I am. I'm really independant/introvert, pretty much self-sufficient. MIL is olds school, man runs the house, can't stay by herself, won't drive at night kind of person. DH would travel and MIL would go all, you can't be there alone. What if something happens? That is laughable since for the most part anything that happens here I take care of..including our cars (Thanks to my Dad for teaching me about cars, construction, etc).
Since DH really cannot stand to talk to his parents, he doesn't call often. There is also some history of my MIL attempting to run Dh's life back in the day. DH solved that problem by joining the Navy and being unavailable for months on end. MIL runs my SIL's life for the most part and enables BIL. She would like to run Dh's life..but he is having none of it. DH would love it if I took over for him with his parents. As some said before...Negative Ghostrider...the pattern is full." I'm not a meatshield
Am I wrong to think this is DH's relationship to manage and that I do not want to be besties with my MIL?