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Skid24- needs to leave vent

grace8205's picture

Stepson is such an a$$hole. His very presence in my life bothers the crap out of me. May 31st can not come soon enough. He is suppose to move out at the end of May. I will be reminding my husband of this fact next week so he can make sure skid24 plans accordingly. 

I am tired of skid’s attitude and his entitlement, it will be a stretch to hold on until the end of May. Not only do I hate the way he treats me but how he treats his dad. 

Skid the other week said to his dad “ I miss my old dad, not just the money, but the way you use to be”. When DH told me this, I just figured skid24 doesn’t like that DH is trying to have him be a grown up (not as much as DH should but much more than he did before). 

DH did not let me in on the whole conversation and what led up to it or the comment after it. Once I found out about that, it takes on a whole new meaning. 

2 weeks before I told my husband that skid was still eating in his room, I found sticky food remnants in the carpet in the hall, crumbs and wrappers laying on the floor. I told DH to talk him again. Skid is a pig and will let food rot and never clean up after himself so this was on the agreement that everyone signed prior to move in. DH of course didn’t want to say anything to him, and after 10 days I asked if he did and he said no, I told DH I would talk to him myself. DH doesn’t want that either because I won’t sugar coat the conversation. 

So while skid was staying at BM’s house for a weekend taking care of her dog and his own dog ( that she is boarding) while she is away for the weekend. My DH cleaned his son bedroom, changed the sheets  and bathroom.  DH texted skid24 and reminded him about the no food rule since he just filled a garbage bag with wrappers and old food out of his room.

 

Well that caused skid24 to try to deflect the conversation about him. Went off on his dad about “ what kind of dad locks his son out of the house and that is unforgivable...” I guess the a$$hole does not realize I locked him out after his total Christmas Eve melt down - see previous blog. It kills me because skid24 does not see anything in his own behavior that led up to that, it’s all about him. DH obviously never told him that I was the one that locked skid out of the house and I would have done the same to my own kid if he ever behaved that way.

 

Then he goes on to tell his dad how much he hates living here , all I could think is how much I hate having him live here.

Skid’s text then said the line of “I miss my old dad, not just the money, but the way you use to be”. With the closing statement of “its like you live in a law firm dad” Obviously a dig at me since I work in a law firm. So what skid is really getting at is he wants his old dad back, the one from pre Grace days. 

 

He said he was going to move in with BM, however he doesn’t realize she does not want him at her house, she told DH that and won’t let him live there.

 

So for the next 2 months I will make comments around skid how nice it will be to have our kid free house back and how much I am looking forward to him. And since our house runs like a law firm I will be taking the title of in-house counsel and enforce the rules myself. Maybe I should even create my own letterhead for the firm and leave reminder letters for skid on the “firm” letterhead (lol).

 

Thanks for reading my vent. 

 

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DPW's picture

Do it!!! lol

"Dear skid24, This is your 30 day reminder on intent to leave the premises on May 31, 2019..."

"Dear skid24, The purpose of this letter is to remind you of Clause 2 of our co-habitation agreement to not leave food items in your room..."

"Dear skid24, The reason for this notice is to ..."

I'd have so much fun with this. 

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Oh, I love this! 

30 day reminder. 29 day reminder. 28... 27...

grace8205's picture

And yes I will make Grace Law LLP stationary for all the reminders, with my title of in-house counsel. Love it,

tog redux's picture

This is on your DH. Yes, skid is a turd, but my DH would have said, "This is YOUR fault, DS, not Grace's - you are a grown up and should be acting like one, and I'm not "the old dad" anymore because "the old dad" was parenting a CHILD, and you are a MAN. So grow up and follow the damn rules that you said you'd follow, or GTFO of my house."

Your DH cleans his room for him and probably apologies for not being the dad he used to be. And doesn't defend you, in any way. He's the one you should be angry at. He's allowed skid to become so entitled.

grace8205's picture

He barely says anything to his son, he has stood up for me when skid was trying to bad mouth me. I agree most of this is on DH for years of not parenting and continued non parenting. 

I can’t changed skid no one can. I can however disengage and get him out and not do anything for the entitled shit again. 

shamds's picture

i tood hubby it was disgusting and his room had mould on wardrobes, musky smell, mould smell and we have toddlers. Once there is mould in 1 room it can spread and it pissed me off when hubby made every excuse possible to not address it. Eventually hubby saw skid go to his room with food and forced him to eat out and he still tried to argue saying its ok. No its friggin not

took about 3.5 yrs of marriage before he eats in dining room on his own... when i cook dinner hubby forces him to come out and eat what i made

ss was raised by useless bio mum feeding him daily mcdonalds and if not that it would be white rice, a fried egg and a fried chicken. No veggies, no proper food and here my kids are eating gourmet food and ss21 kicks a stink like what veggies are in my chicken kiev, i need chilli sauce on everything.

he actually drove on his motorbike to the convenience store nearby to buy chilli sauce because we had run out. He spent about 10 mins to leave the house and buy it. His dad is like what the hell, you can eat just fine we have other sauces here and chilli sauce but nope it had to be a certain brand

grace8205's picture

Skid no longer eats with us and will waiting until we leave the mainfloor to eat leftovers without us there. I now make enough for me and DH since we are home for dinner and leftovers I pack in my lunch kit before skid makes his rounds in the kitchen. I’m so done. 

Aniki-Moderator's picture

"SS, since you're so miserable here, we'll allow you to terminate your contract and move out early. Have fun at BM"s!"