Step-life After having a Bio
Did anyone else's step-dynamic change after you had a bio kid? I used to find it so easy and guiltless to disengage if I was feeling overwhelmed and just wanted to relax. Now that I have BD, I can't exactly piss off to the bedroom whenever I feel like it anymore. It makes those "annoying" moments so much more intolerable. Anybody found a solution for this yet??
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I don't have kids. However,
I don't have kids. However, I've heard others suggest taking your baby for a walk or go visit family/friends with the baby.
Lol passive-aggressive
Lol passive-aggressive sarcasm is like a second language to me
doesn't bother me though, keep 'em coming!
Agreed. That is not nice
Agreed. That is not nice advice.
You'd also being ruining skid's self Esteem and building resentment for your and your bio.
I wouldn't want to create that or deal with that.
When my mother passed away, I had to move in with my psycho and abusive aunt.
I was Cinderella while my cousin had no chores. I was beat for anything while she never laid a finger on my cousin.
And though I made it through that...my aunt made comments all the time about how my younger cousin was more beautiful and perfect in every way. She got all the nicer clothes and all the attention. She got money for good grades and I had nothing.
I hated my cousin growing up and I hated my aunt. Even now I resent my aunt.
I have a bio on the way. I'm keeping things EVEN in my home. No one, including skid or my own kid, will be getting special treatment. If I need a break from skid, I would just take bio outside for a walk.
But the sarcastic and cruel comments? No. That's just wrong.
She was being nasty. I don't
She was being nasty. I don't think we were meant to take her advice seriously, I was just her target of the day.
Tough one. I was accused of
Tough one. I was accused of taking the baby away so SD couldn't play with her (which I didn't do - I think she thought this when I was just changing or feeding the baby). So I'm in a tough spot because now I want to leave but I can't because then what I was accused of would be true!
If the baby's napping could you spend some time by yourself?
I have a 3yr old SD and a 9
I have a 3yr old SD and a 9 month bio. I never disengaged because I had no reason to. How old is your bio? If the baby is older, you could take her out for walks, to the store, even to your room to play. It's a tough balance of wanting some alone time with you and your bio. I definielty wouldn't tell your bio how perfect she is when skid is there.
Let me make it clear I would
Let me make it clear I would NEVER tell my bio how perfect she was...even if skid wasn't there. Nobody is perfect, and I certainly don't think my child is an exception. That wasn't at all what I was implying with my post, I just replied in a snippy way to notasm because she is rude and sarcastic, but my reply was misunderstood I suppose.
Ooh lucky!! I need one of
Ooh lucky!! I need one of those
I always felt having my son
I always felt having my son around made it easier to tolerate exSD and all her weird ass awkward ways. he was sort of a buffer really.Instead of focusing on how batshit she was I could focus on teaching my son how to play nicely,how to share,etc.
It always helped to focus on developing my son's ability to relate to people and teaching him to develop his creativity and such. Lots of outside time bc SD wasn't big on the outdoors. If she wanted to join,fine.If not,fine.
Our bios can always become the center of our focus when things start getting irritating with the skid.You'll also get irritated with your bio and that's when you uncork the wine }:)