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I need advice with dealing with my resentment

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Hi,

i havent written in two years. Not because anything got better, but because I resigned myself to step hell. However, SS now almost 20 did go away to college this past fall, so that helped a lot. He was local and came home often, but it was still great to have him out of the house most of the time! SD almost 18 is okay to deal with but she has her moments that I could do without  

Need ideas evil stepmothers

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My horrible SS17 is winning the war when it comes to destroying my marriage by being a selfish, spoiled, lazy excuse for a human being.

My DH worships the ground he walks on and will never see my side of things... that I have become nothing more than a nanny, housekeeper and bill- payer around here.

I can hardly let this moron kid get away with this. Need some ways to make his life as miserable as he is making mine.

Yep. I've officially lost my mind. Give something to laugh about at least! }:)

Is anyone else a FULL TIME SINGLE STEP PARENT?

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I am not REALLY... My DH works out of town during the week and I am stuck with my two teenaged skids. Their BM is not in their lives. So here I am, left to "parent" two, selfish, spoiled, LAZY kids who think that my sole purpose is to do stuff for them. I have a FT job that requires me to travel sometimes. Most of the time I work my 40-50 hours in my home office.

I CANNOT STAND IT! :sick:

I need someone to tell me if I am being difficult or if I am being taken advantage of...

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Haven't been on here for a long time ... quick background: Been with my DH for seven years, Married almost 3. SS17 and SD15 have lived with us FT for the 3 years. They go to eat with their BM for an hour every other week for an hour. She was neglectful and had them living in a hoarded, filthy apartment - and she was a controlling bitch, thus why they live with us now. My DH - guilty over what they went through, became a full on Disney Dad and waited on the kids like he was their personal servant.

Why oh why oh why

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Must skids ALWAYS have priority over everything? My DH and I never have plans. Never. We are invited over to a neighbor's house tonight. DH has known about this for weeks. We were supposed to be there 20 minutes ago. But where is he? Running one skid to a last minute plan and then I'm sure he will then run the other skid to a last minute plan. I'm so angry! It's not like these are toddlers that require babysitting either. They are both teenagers that are #1 more than capable of staying home alone and. #2 both more than capable of setting up rides to get where they need to be.

I'm to Blame? But of Course!!!!

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My skids, who live with us FT, have a very tenuious relationship with their BM. She was custodial for 7 years after divorce, from about ages 7-14 for SS and 5-12 for SD. Skids finally asked DH last spring to get them out of there. Turned out that BM was neglectful and abusive and her house was an episode of Hoarders. Court took kids from her and gave her 10 hours a week visitation and made HER pay CS.

Just gotta vent

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Heard SS14 get into the shower at 10:50 last night. He didn't get out until 11:10. DH came upstairs at 11:30 and he went into SS's room, so I know he knew the kid was still awake. SMH. Anyway, I knew the morning was going to be difficult.

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