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Submitted by glynne on Thu, 05/13/2010 - 3:13pm

Ny poor coworker. She has a blind date. She tells me about him, right age, good job, owns home AND has a 7 year old daughter.

I stop her right there and verbally vomit all over her about stepparenting. How birth parents parent out of guilt, about PAS, about how she will never be #1, how SK's become spoiled and manipulative - ESPECAILY GIRLS. How step parenting was the hardest and the least rewarding thing I have ever done and if I had it to do over - I wouldn't.

A Change

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Submitted by glynne on Fri, 04/09/2010 - 12:09pm

For the good here at ST since Adm posted. I was reading the blog on cliques and posters are able to agree and disagree courteously and with humor and insight. I've missed that. There are so many good people here at ST - we are a diverse group and we are going to disagree and that is okay. This website helps me regain my perspective and keeps me sane. It's important for new members to feel welcome and know that this is a safe place to vent but also to learn from fellow steps. Seems like I've always had to learn my life lessons the hard way.

Here we go again....

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Submitted by glynne on Mon, 11/02/2009 - 10:39am

The holidays are ahread of us. DH and I were planning a 4 day weekend getaway for Thanksgiving. All was well....until yesterday. 26YO SD broke up with her live in BF and now DH has cancelled our plans - he wants to have Thanksgiving dinner at our home so that he can be there for SD. She was planning to spend the holiday with BF's parents and BM is out of town.

So of course, our plans don't matter. I will not be cooking dinner. He and SD can do so if they wish. Maybe I'll volunteer at a soup kitchen or do my own get away.

Crayon's comments on health got me thinking

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Submitted by glynne on Fri, 08/21/2009 - 4:29pm

Crayon remarked in another blog about people who put others' wants before their needs have more health issues.

I have certainly experienced this. I'm an alcholic and am celebrating 7 years of sobriety. I'm not an alcoholic because I had a SD but my drinking did escalate during the stressful teen years. My DH would call me at work and suggest that I work late because the tension at the house was so bad. I notice now that when planning the various family holiday functions that include SD - I clench my jaw and grind my teeth and suffer from TMJ and migraines.

RESPECT

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Submitted by glynne on Mon, 08/17/2009 - 1:05pm

Let's respect each other, Okay? I may not agree with many negative posts or name calling but I have to admit that I've done my share here. I don't come here to be judged or to judge others. I browse through the posts here and may or may not agree with the writers' viewpoints but I do NOT criticize. I'm a sober alcoholic and here is what works in AA meetings - we don't cross talk. That means when someone opens up and shares we listen and we don't criticize or give advice. WE LISTEN. WE OFFER SUPPORT. We talk about a similar experience and how we survived it or learned from it.

Here comes the Bridezilla

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Submitted by glynne on Mon, 08/03/2009 - 5:00pm

Hi,

First a summary: Married for 17 years, SD is 27. We were close initally but after years of indulgent guilt driven parenting by my DH and a great job of parental alienation by BM, SD is your typical toxic, narcisstic, manipulative drama queen that we all know or know of. She and I tolerate each other at family gatherings but barely speak. I have included her at get togethers at our home for DH's sake: holiday dinners, etc. Again, she barely speaks to me and forget about thanking me for hosting the get together.

Did you watch "Desperate"?

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Submitted by glynne on Mon, 05/19/2008 - 6:31pm

Hi,

It's been a long time since I posted anything but I had to write after watching "Desperate Housewives" last night. I have that kind of stepdaughter but unfortunately my husband cannot see it. The good news is that she is out of the house and my interactions with her are few.

Just had to write in and ask if anyone else felt that the episode was written for them?

Articles in Oprah Magazine

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Submitted by glynne on Fri, 05/11/2007 - 2:59pm

Hi All,

Again A Happy Mother's Day - do something nice for yourself. Saw a couple of insightful ariticles in the current Oprah magazine. One is on HDP aka highly defensive people and how it is nearly impossible to get along with them. You make an innocent comment and it becomes a huge criticism and high drama. Sound familar? Also, a women writes in about her SD trying to alienate her from her husband. Dr Phil gives some good advice.

A friend and fellow SM and I are treating ourselves this Mother's Day, be sure to do the same.

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