How to handle SS in military when he come home
My husband and I got married 1 year ago and I only met his oldest child, his daughter who has two small children. I immediately fell in love with all three of them and we babysit for the daughter pretty frequently as she is a hair dresser and has to work on the weekends occasionally. My husband's stepson is in the military and was deployed when we met and got married, so I did not meet him until this past Thanksgiving. He also has a small daughter who lives with her mother on the other side of the country.
I have 3 children. The oldest 2 are grown and out on their own and my youngest daughter who is 27 lives with me and now my husband. She is developmentally delayed and cannot drive. She has a job and gets herself to work every day via Uber. My husband and I are in the same industry but do not work together, although we met through work.
My husband and I have been blissfully happy up until this past Christmas. His son came home from the military on leave and brought with him his 20 something girlfriend from El Salvador and his 4 year old daughter who we were thrilled to meet. My stepson was very vague about the time he would be staying at our house (we only have a 2 bedroom townhome) and I was completely unaware he would be squatting at our house for almost a month before he goes to Japan. To make a very long story short, the granddaughter was visiting with us for 2 weeks - from Christmas day until January 9. The other two - the stepson and his girlfriend have been with us the entire time. They are complete slobs. The son disrespects his dad, he won't come downstairs to visit when we get home from work, they sleep all day and are up all night, they won't put anything away, dishes, trash, etc. The stepson says he's strapped for cash because he pays child support, yet he won't live on base. He requires a private apartment with a housekeeper. Well, the S&$* hit the fan this morning when