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Towel Theory and Bathroom Gripes

Gabriels Mom's picture

So I'm trying to be as disengaged as possible. I don't remind SS to do his homework or his chores and if he asks me if he can do something I tell him to ask DH. I'm tired of always being angry and b*tching at him. I still call him on his attitude though. He's not going to speak to me with the same nasty tone he uses with his mother. I don't want to say this stuff to DH because I'm supposed to be disengaged.

So, if you open the cabinet under the sink (next to the toilet) there are several rolls of toilet paper, there is also a package of feminine wipes. Why did this boy use my feminine wipes to wipe his @ss instead of getting another roll of toilet paper?

I have been through 3 packages of make up remover wipes in a month's time. No one fesses up to using them and I can't imagine what he is using them for. I know it has to be SS because DS6 can't reach them and I figure DH would tell me if he's using them.

Towel Theory:

If you wash your body and your hair in the shower with soap, bodywash or shampoo when you get out and use a CLEAN towel, the towel will dry and smell like whatever bodywash or soap you used and the towel can be used again. I came to this theory because when we go to the water park or pool and dry off the towels smell like chlorine when they dry.

SS took a shower and I know he used my towel because

1. DH was in bed
2. DS still needs my help
3. SS's towels weren't in the bathroom the last few days so I imagine there are balled up in his room somewhere.
4. It smelled like BO.

I got out of the shower and brought my towel up to my face and recoiled in horror and threw the towel on the floor. It smelled like BO. Why in the h3ll would my fresh CLEAN towel smell like BO. Because SS used my freaking towel that's why. He doesn't wash. He just gets in there and gets wet and gets out.

Did I also mention he doesn't flush. So if you go into the bathroom there is a lot of pee in there and it smells horrible? I told DH that he has to clean the toilet from now on. I'm not doing it. It's ridiculous that SS can't take a half second and flush the toilet.

SIGH I want so badly to tell DH he needs to go in the bathroom while SS is taking a shower and show him how to wash. The freakin 6 year old can do it. I just have to turn the water on for him....

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Sootica's picture

1. Get a cabinet witha lock for the bathroom where you keep your items,under lock and key.

2. Get a clean towel out of the cupboard everytime you have a shower -yes this generates more washing for you but at least you know you not rubbing his stinky BO all over yourself.

3. EVERYTIME you walk into the bathroom and the toilet isn't flushed holler across the house for SS and make him come that minute and flush the toilet.Yes it's tedious but he will just carry on not doing it if it gets done for him.We STILL have to do this sometimes with SS13 when he falls into his old habits.

Gabriels Mom's picture

Why can't they flush? I don't get it. I really don't.

I can get a clean towel but everyone has 4 towels and 4 wash clothes of their own. Everyone has a different color. I was tired of all the towels always ending up under SS's bed or in his closet. No one is allowed to use anyone else's towels and the white towels in the closet are for guests.

Gabriels Mom's picture

LOL not completely. I turn the water on and he climbs in under supervision. He's really good about washing. He likes to get all soapy and then rinse off and then he washes his hair. I'm in there the whole time. But I don't have to wash him.

Tuff Noogies's picture

we had one bathroom with five people who CONTINUALLY used my shit. after bringing it to dh's attention time and again, i got tired of him doing nothing about it and finally gave up.

i had a shower caddy with all my daily use items kept very well hidden in the depths of my closet, and a hook on my bedroom door for my towel. it was like dorm living- i carried all my shit with me when i went to shower, and took all my shit with me when i was done.

it was sad it got to that point, but i didnt have to worry about it anymore. i mean, really. keep yo' hands OFF other people's shit! how difficult is that to comprehend?

Gabriels Mom's picture

I'm going to go to walmart after work and get a shower caddy and keep my stuff in the closet and put two command hooks on the inside of my closet door. It's sad but I can't deal with bad smells LOL

New_to_this's picture

I understand your pain. I dealt with similar issues for a year when we lived in a house with one bathroom. The solution: we moved to a place where SS had his own bathroom. I never step foot in that bathroom now. It's DH's job to make sure that SS is keeping it in working order. But yeah, SS doesn't flush the toilet, fakes showers, fakes brushing his teeth, but somehow uses a crap load of toothpaste and mouthwash. There is usually a horrible smell eminating from his body or mouth and it grosses me out to hug or otherwise touch him most times.

Gabriels Mom's picture

*sigh* glad I'm not alone. DH will talk/yell at SS but it doesn't do any good.

I had to laugh, on Saturday, DH told SS to take a shower. He said "SS go take a shower, WASH your hair, scrub your head with your fingers, and WASH your body. USE body wash. SS went in there for like 45 mins and came out. Later when his hair dried and DH realized he didn't use any shampoo or anything he asked him about it. SS said "I forgot."

DaizyDuke's picture

I cringe to think what exactly he is doing while in the shower for 45 minutes that he "forgot" to wash his hair. GAH! you definitely need to have your own stash of towels, washcloths etc that SS has ZERO access to. I would NEVER want anything that came in contact with that kid's body coming within a 10 mile radius of mine! Sad