BF (new guy), got back into town yesterday after sitting vigil with his dying MIL from Thursday to Monday. She passed Monday afternoon. He spent a couple days with FIL to help him out and be a sounding board now that FIL is also a widower.
On to the GhoulSD. Background: BF's wife died 4 years ago. MIL is his wife's bio mom and FIL is her stepdad. FIL has a son and daughter (ghoul SD). The Ghoul is in her 50s or early 60s.
GhoulSD got her butt up from Georgia right quick to "help her dad (FIL) out" during this difficult time.
GhoulSD and MIL had a strained and unpleasant relationship, but the Ghoul introduced herself to nursing staff as MIL's DAUGHTER, promptly giving orders and endlessly manipulating dear dad.
Once MIL was placed on hospice with palliative care, the ghoul campaigned hard for her pain meds (with a coerced FIL) to be increased because it was “so cruel” to let MIL suffer. Thing is, MIL was resting peacefully - no signs of pain, but her breathing was shallow and infrequent through the weekend.
By Monday morning, there was a sign that MIL was struggling to breathe. The Ghoul and FIL immediately start telling MIL it's okay to go on to the next life because all is well. (Hurry up and die, basically).
BF was asked by FIL to look into cremation services and found one that was reasonable and could provide services that day, but the Ghoul argued that $1800 was too much and they should shop around. Unless you prepay, there is an upcharge for same day service. What ensues is the Ghoul researching cremation services, talking prices to FIL......in MIL's presence. Even I know that the dying often hear conversations and these people were discussing her cremation in her presence and haggling over prices!!! FIL ultimately chose the place BF had found. FIL is well off.
The Ghoul spoke of all manner of topics in the presence of MIL, much to the chagrin of BF and his DD30. DD30 was so hurt and angered by the callous commentary and bossy, know it all behavior of the Ghoul, she had to leave the hospital room more than once. She went home Saturday night because she couldn't take it.
FIL mentioned to BF that MIL was wearing her grandmother's ring and she wanted it to go to his DD30. The Ghoul protested saying something along the lines of it not being automatic that it goes to DD30. When MIL died, FIL and the Ghoul made a nurse take the rings off of MIL's fingers - they wouldn't touch her after she passed.
Soon after MIL's death, the Ghoul began gathering things up to clear out - show's over, folks! That night back at FIL's house, the Ghoul made it known she had an interest in many of MIL's valuable possessions and would stay around to "help dad" clear some things out after BF left to come home.
The Ghoul never left BF and FIL alone for long. The two men went on a hike.........the Ghoul had to go, too. BF if pretty sure the Ghoul was there to protect her interests and didn't want FIL making any promises to BF. MIL had property in her name that was supposed to go to BF and his wife.
Interestingly, just before MIL finally passed, the Ghoul had pulled FIL out of the hospital room for a walk, leaving BF alone in the room with MIL. He sat holding her hand and not long after the Ghoul and FIL left the room, she breathed her last.
Knowing what he's told me about his MIL and her relationship with the Ghoul, I promise you that feisty MIL was holding on until the bitch Ghoul left the room because she wasn't going to give her the satisfaction of seeing her die.
It's a damn good thing I wasn't there because I'm a blunt bitch. I would have called out the Ghoul on her crass and insensitive behavior, asking her to take her ghoulish reparte OUTSIDE the hospital room.