Christmas 2020 - the verdict is in
We have a winner.
Was it exactly what I hoped for? Not really, because BF didn't join me at breakfast with my sons on Christmas morning. However, it's fine because of the gains we did make.
BF and I had Christmas Eve completely together...and alone. He made us dinner and I had him open two of his Christmas gifts. In my family, we were ALWAYS allowed to open one gift on Christmas Eve. It was usually the gift my mom wanted us to open because it contained either something to wear to midnight mass or Christmas PJs for the morning.
So, in the spirit, I had him open up the gift I had been over at my house waiting to arrive: a set of nice Japanese knives. He got me a Santoku knife for my birthday and he desperately needed knives, so I added to OUR set. He was over the moon and immediately took down all his tattered knives to display our 3 new knives together.
I also had him open a gift from my cat. (just an excuse to get him another gift). It was the boxed set of Dr. Who with his favorite doctor. And that's what we did on Christmas Eve. We drank wine and binge watched Dr. Who.
We woke up Christmas AM and had a low key morning. I gave him the other 2 gifts I had for him: a backpacking air mattress and two books with history of the town where he's buying his house. He was very pleased. He got me a set of wireless bluetooth earbuds. I'm wearing them right now. I'm really pleased with it but he apologized for not having many ideas. I told him it's not a competition or all about gifts. It's mostly the time together.
I headed to my house around 9am to cook breakfast for my sons: cinnamon rolls, eggs, bacon and sliced fruit. We opened gifts and really enjoyed the time together. It WAS actually better with just me and my sons.
BF picked me up at noon and we headed to his mom's house. It was just a visit and his daughter joined us - socially distanced. His mom gave me a sweet gift. Very nice all around. He brought up his new house while there and kept saying "WE" meaning him and me. He even mentioned US thinking about having chickens (I'm totally on board with that). He later told me that he was letting them both know the plan for the new house is for US to live there together.
BF then dropped me back at my house. He was going home to prep dinner. His DD31 was dropping by for dinner and to drop off her cat for us to cat sit. BF told me to "take my time." Soooooo, I did.
I hung out with my guys, did some laundry and even took a nap watching TV with my DS30. I rolled up a couple of hours later and dinner was ready! My timing was perfect. We had lamb chops and roasted veggies. It was a REALLY nice visit and his DD31 didn't stay very long after dinner. Her cat is adorable and it's been a blast to have her around the last few days. I think we have her for another day or two.
BF and I partied on and watched more Dr. Who. BF told me he and his daughter talked about me and she had nothing but positive things to say about US and our plans to make his new house our home.
BF said the plan for the next house is for it be an open door policy for our friends and family - everyone is welcome to come visit us out there - particularly for Christmas. It's a big enough house for all our children to visit...with their partners. We might have to get creative about sleeping arrangements, but there are options.
Even BF said THIS holiday season has been so much better than the last one. Ya think? It's always better when we're together.