Christmas 2019 vs. 2020
Folks, it's like night and day.
This year is a complete turnaround from last year. HE decorated his house and is in pretty good spirits. NO STOCKINGS (last year he put up 3 stockings: himself, the late wife and their daughter).
WE have low key plans for Christmas Eve. WE will have breakfast with my sons on Christmas Day, spend time with his daughter, then visit his mom later in the day.
His daughter is leaving for a trip with her boyfriend on the 25th or 26th. We'll be watching her cat while she's away.
THIS is how it's supposed to work in a committed relationship when you have adult kids.
Our respective real estate deals are progressing, and BF told me Sunday that he is hoping that WE would make his second house OUR full time home in the next couple of years. I told him I felt the same way and liked the idea. He said when we were there, he could see US living there and....he thought it was the ideal place for a wedding. I agreed it was a great place for a wedding and I was open to that....in due time. We talked about getting engaged. I told him I'm traditional and would want him to propose....and I'd want a simple ring. He said he can nail that one. I told him I don't want a diamond. I want a natural blue/green stone in a simple setting.
But the most important thing he told me was that if we make that house OUR home, he will take steps to make sure I won't lose the house if he's gone. He said we can work out the specifics, but he wants to make sure I have that security.
We have both REALLY enjoyed living together. It looks like that's something we'll continue doing into 2021.