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Tattoos and names

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A forum topic I saw today related to something going on currently with me and my bf. I saw someone asked about father’s tattooing their kids’ names on their body and people’s thoughts about it. Unfortunately, my bf got BM’s older child’s name tattooed on the inside of his right forearm when the child was a baby and thought she was his. So talk about a shitty situation when he found out after he filed for divorce from BM that the child was not biologically his.

Vacation, Daycare, and BM

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So when I had last posted, many people on her were upset about the fact that me and my bf were taking a trip to see my family when his work had ordered none of the people in his company to go anywhere, especially out of state. Lucky enough for us about 3 days before we left for our trip, my bf’s work said they were out of phase 0 and this no longer applied, but at that last minute it was too late to put in leave for my bf to come the whole time and for our pets to have care the whole week since we had only arranged for the weekends.

Update to BM's friend approaching us at B-day party last weekend

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So last week I had written about the birthday party for our friend’s SD and how a friend of BM’s was in attendance that approached bf and I. So on Saturday, we were having a taco beer and margarita festival of our own at this friend’s house since originally we were all to go to the one in town in May and was just rescheduled to June 11, but between COVID-19, having the two little kids, and the marine corps ordering the men they can’t go anywhere/see anyone, we decided to do our own thing.

My birthday, the weekend, & my friend's SD

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So my birthday is this Wednesday and for about two weeks now, my bf has told me to not look at his phone because he is planning some things that I can’t know about it just yet and that I will ruin it for myself. So turns out it is because he was planning a surprise birthday dinner for me that happened last night! So he told me on Saturday, he wanted to go out to dinner the next night and while out there he wanted to “scope out” the restaurant I had requested to go to on my birthday for dinner. So I was like okay, sounds good to me.

Maybe it is because it started with majority?

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So lately, I have been seeing quite a bit of posts with SM or SF's struggling dealing with custody being flipped that their SO has full custody or even that their SO wants to fight for more custody. I even see this with my friend, the SM who I have written about a few times, that it causes a lot of anxiety or bad feelings towards getting or fighting for more custody. So I wonder if many of those who feel this way started their relationship with their SO when they had limited custody or visitation with their children.

Boundaries with BM

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So I have posted on here a few times about my “friend,” the SM who gets a little too involved in contact with BM, stirs the pot with BM, and doesn’t always think about how the actions she wants to do towards BM really could hurt not only her DH’s custody case, but also really the SD. I was torn about posting about her again because from the last one I had come to the decision from everyone’s feedback to not spend time or energy on the drama when she has not taken the advice I have given in the past.

I know it is the age, but omg so many questions

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For the last two weeks SD has been asking SOOOO many questions. I know it is the age since she is about to turn 4 at the end of this month and it is good she is curious enough to ask questions, but omg it is the repeated questions that have already been answered that is frustrating. For example:

SD: What are we doing today?

Bf or I: We are doing x,y, & z.

SD: Then what?

Bf or I: Then we are doing x,y, &z.

SD: Then what?

Bf or I: You will find out when we get to that point.

SD: What are we doing today?

Totally none of my business, but I think BM

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dropped off her older child somewhere for the summer, so she could enjoy a child free party summer. The reason I suspect this is because:

1. BM in 30 days has called 3 times to talk to SD after she had tried originally to have bf agree to a call schedule of twice a week... bf never said no to twice a week, he said no to a definite schedule that we would have to revolve our summer around

2. During all 3 phone calls, SD has not talked to her sister one time, but BM was so dead set on making sure in the PSA that it says reasonable phone access to her sister

Feedback wanted - My last blog got me wondering

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what everyone's stories are revolving around getting engaged and married to their DH. As many of you know, bf's custody schedule is every spring break, 6 weeks of summer, and every other christmas after September 1. My bf and I are not engaged yet, but it is coming soonish. How soon? I have no idea and I like it that way. My only request to bf was for it to not be within a month of two of the divorce being finalized.

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