Well another phone call that SD answers crying and takes several minutes for her to get to talk then finally she gets to talking and asks "do you remember when (BM's oldest) came over your house?" And also "why did you marry mommy?" ... very clearly BM is filling SD's head because she's never mentioned any of this ever and doesn't even remember them living together, she was under 2 at the time. That's the most coherent things she said the whole phone call.

So yesterday bf was able to have a phone appointment with the lawyer he used for the divorce. It is a good news/bad news situation. So basically based on what his lawyer has, the judge only verbally told BM she needed to now change her birth certificate, etc. it was never a written up order. The hearing of this was his second lawyer's last day on bf's case so basically it slipped through the cracks that the old lawyer didn't ask for the judge to write an order for it and it was never put on the new lawyer's radar.

So far we have learned that since the child's birth certificate is from Indiana they require a court order signed off by a judge to take off the incorrectly named father. So right now we are still waiting to hear back from the judge's clerk which all the custody, dna testing, and divorce went through. Prior to COVID to get an appointment with the marine corps legal, you had to go in at 7 am on Monday mornings in person to schedule an appointment. I mentioned to bf last week maybe he might want to call ahead to find out if that is still the case because of COVID.

which I don't see how it is not because the child is not bf's dependent, bf is divorced from child's mother, but yet she is still on bf's insurance right now, but either way, this birth certificate needs to be changed. It is frustrating because it seems to get this done we will have to yet again do most/all the legwork which was what happened the whole divorce process and custody battle, to get anything done.