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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Mon, 12/07/2020 - 6:46am

So jumping the gun just a little bit in posting this, but bf has strongly been hinting that we will be getting engaged before we go to my parents for Christmas and we will be leaving December 22nd. On our drive back home from Thanksgiving, bf and I talked about the possibility of getting married with just a minister before we leave in May to move to the West Coast. This is for many reasons. 1. We don't want to plan anything to just be canceled with COVID, 2. If we get married before we leave then the marine corps will also move my stuff, not just bf's, 3.

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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Fri, 12/04/2020 - 9:47am

So remember the co-worker bf had asked if he could stay with us, but after hearing more and us discussing, bf and to tell the co-worker that he was sorry, but it was not going to work out? The one that had a dog, wasn't finished being divorced from wife #1, had a pregnant fiance that was almost due, but he had moved out and was done with her, and wasn't getting new orders until Spring 2021? Well here is the update on that situation and thank goodness he didn't end up living with us temporarily.

Removing BM's child off bf's health insurance update and questions

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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Tue, 12/01/2020 - 12:51pm

Ugh the marine corps can be oh so frustrating sometimes. It has been almost a month since we sent over the final divorce decree to the Service Project Office of the Marine Corps to see if they can remove BM’s child off of bf’s health insurance. Guess what? Finally today they email back saying:

“I apologize for the delay. Can you please provide the DNA results and the separation agreement? The divorce decree does not mention the child that was deemed not to be yours.”

Health Insurance

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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Tue, 12/01/2020 - 6:08am

For those of you who carry your step kids on your health insurance versus your DH's health insurance how much of your information did you have to provide to BM for when she takes the SKIDS to the doctor? I am asking because SD is to be carried on bf's health insurance, that is what was agreed upon, which makes sense especially him being in the military right now. As many of you know we will be moving to the other side of the country in May 2021.

How does it work?

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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Mon, 11/30/2020 - 1:15pm

So my friend (SM) and her DH, that I have mentioned before paid the retainer for a lawyer to try and get the custody flipped to SD living with them. BM lived in Ohio and that is where their CO was made. In the beginning of the summer BM moved to another state, but did not ask SM’s DH prior as is stated must be done in the CO in order for BM to move out of state nor did she notify the court she moved as is also stated in the CO. Today, my friend (SM) said that they have to file in Ohio because the original CO was made in Ohio.

SD, BM, Thanksgiving, and Engagement

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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Mon, 11/30/2020 - 7:03am

I hope everyone had a Happy Thanksgiving! We picked up SD from BM’s on Wednesday night, which went totally smooth. BM came out with SD, SD ran over to bf, and as soon as SD got to him, he turned and walked to his truck. BM lingered for a minute like she had something she wanted to say, but did not and she looked back after walking away at the truck, at bf, SD, or me, who knows or cares. Then when we dropped SD off last night, when I got out of the truck to hug SD, BM was already standing outside waiting and staring. Mind you she has never once been outside waiting prior to bf arriving.

Carrying gun, medical weed, & assault

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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Mon, 11/23/2020 - 6:16am

It has been a while since I have posted about this friend (SM) but that is in part because I told my friend in a nice way that in regards to their custody situation if they aren't going to file or pursue anything to try and switch custody then to stop wasting energy talking about it/asking for advice on it all the time. I really said it very nicely, but that is the gist of what I meant.

O/T - Watches

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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Fri, 11/20/2020 - 10:07am

So totally off topic, but I just wanted to share with everyone here in case they are looking for a good gift to give and good sale! So my family has been harassing me about Christmas since October because they like to do their shopping early, especially with COVID going on. So I started doing my Christmas shopping early too. So I got an email about Fossil having a good sale so I was like let me check them out because I have been wanting to do a his and hers matching match set for a bit now. We are kind of that annoying couple of the his and hers or matching each other on things.

Apologies to those

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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Mon, 11/09/2020 - 9:34am

that I was yelling at earlier that commented on my blog, especially since many of the users are once that have given me great advice, been supportive, etc. I lost my cool because it was being insinuated that I was trying to control my bf by telling him that he should not go to an event to support his SD. Sometimes on here I get frustrated because users think I am reading too much into a situation or letting BM take up too much space in my head or that I just am misplacing blame on BM. Those who know about the BM in my situation know how awful and cruel she is.

Since it seems that people disagree with the

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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Mon, 11/09/2020 - 7:56am

fact that bf and I do not attend small close events/situations with BM because we do not want to risk an interaction with BM's older child when it has just been a year since BM took his rights away from her, I would love to know how everyone else would handle this. After BM rubbed it in bf's face he wasn't the biological father after passing her off as his for 3 years. After she tried for months after removing his rights to emotionally black mail him into taking care of the child still financially and physically with BM having the ability to take her away at any moment?

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