Well, today is not a good day. On the 4th of July, we took the children ages 4 and 2 to the park. At this park there is a rock climbing wall on the side of the jungle gym. Sometimes, the children like to climb it and lately have been wanting to on their own. The two year old wanted to do it by herself, which she has done many many times. My bf and I were standing there watching, but not in arms distance as we have been comfortable with them climbing it after doing so successfully so many times. Well, after she was about chest high, she fell off the rock wall and landed on her butt/side.
Both my boyfriend and I have birthdays in July, 12 days apart to be exact, although he is two years older than me. This year for his birthday, I took him yesterday when we did not have the skids on a mountain horse back ride. He has not been on a horse in about 10+ years, but used to have a horse and love to ride. It was so much fun and now we are talking about in the fall doing a half a day right at the same ranch to see all the leaves change. His actual birthday is this week and I have a few gifts to give him and am taking him and the skids out to dinner on the actual day.
Been away for over a month now after the last few blogs I posted, but wanted to give an update regarding Father's Day since a bunch of you helped me decide what to do for father's day for my bf. I went with the Taco shirt for my bf and the Taquito shirt for both of the girls. When he went to take the dog outside, I told him I would pick out the clothes for the girls wear that day. When really I was helping them put on their shirt and then when he came back inside had the girls give him his shirt and tell him happy dad day. He loved the shirts and we spent the day at the zoo.
It’s funny, I had read on a men’s forum before finding this site, a woman saying she wrote on the men’s site instead of one involving mostly women because it was so negative. I found this site and I was like oh wow this great and so helpful! Other than a few people who have reached out or commented giving legit advice, I have felt nothing, but a lot of women here trying to belittle me and just tons of negativity.
Waiting around this week has been hard. The settlement agreement should of been received last Friday, bf's lawyer wanted to wait a week and then go from there. Today it has been a week, as far as we know, no response has been given to the agreement and BM has not brought up the agreement to my bf. Plan is to wait and see if his lawyer contacts him with any news, if not on Monday he will follow up with his lawyer and will probably be getting a court date.
Well it has been about over a month since I talked about my bf's legal situation regarding the custody and the divorce. Also took a few week break from this site to get some fresh air. So my bf got a new lawyer, offically signed all the paperwork, met with him, and all that jazz this morning. This lawyer is cheaper than the lawyer who was essentially twiddling her thumbs and making decisions without discussing them with my bf first. Also, this lawyer thinks he has a good chance of getting what he wants in regards to custody.
I am a planner, always like to think ahead, especially when it comes to gifts because I like to give gifts that are personal and thoughtful instead of rushing around to just get something. So it is end of April right now, Father's Day is coming up in June so I was trying to figure out what I was going to get my bf/get from his children to give to him. One thing my boyfriend loves is doing coordinating shirts sometimes (kinda corny, but I actually think it's sweet too).
I am offically done posting on/commenting/looking at this site for a long while after my last post and after a few other posts of late I have seen where a vast majority are being torn down and people are just giving subjective opinions without reading the facts. So I am going to give my facts here about my situation, you don't like them, that is fine, but at the very least it should clear up some things with some of you who think I am selfish and my boyfriend doesn't want his children apparently.
FINALLY, after 2.5 weeks, the stbx was available to talk with my boyfriend about figuring out custody without going to trial, etc. He did not want to have the conversation in front of the children which I completely agreed with, so we had to wait and wait, until yesterday. So he went over there and they talked in the parking lot of her apartment complex which was his idea that I totally supported, not going inside her place and not going anywhere too public so there was no scene caused.
I have received on my blog and forum posts that I have posted thus far! You all are great I will be deleting half of the items I have posted out of worry that somehow BM will somehow magically stumble upon such posts and as my bf's situation is not typical, totally would be a slam dunk for talking about BM if she were to read them.