Why do people want to meet their SO's ex?
Kind of O/T because this is not about me, but rather my friend who is married to a man who has a child from his first marriage. So my friend texts me quite often to vent about her husband's ex. The BM in their situation is very high conflict, never follows the court order, and quite honestly is a disgusting human being. To just give some brief background in February, their 6 year old daughter had a 104 fever and the BM was pissed she had to go pick the child up from BM's mom's house and leave the bar. Then refused to take her to the hospital. My friend and her husband are both military, BM has majority custody (judge's ruling) and lives states away. Friend and husband ended up calling the cops for a wellness check because BM would not take the child to see the doctor. This BM almost never lets the child speak to her dad on the phone (they have a court ordered phone schedule), refuses to take child to see her dad during his time (they are to meet halfway, rotate every other holiday, then switch every 2 weeks in the summer), making the BF either drive all the way to get her and even then BM does not allow child to go with her dad. There is much, much, much more, but that is just to give some background.
Anyways, last night my friend texts me to vent because they are having issues with the BM on the summer schedule. BM is trying to use COVID-19 as a reason to not send the child to her dad's for his time. Which is after BM had asked the BF to keep the child from April - June instead of just his 1 week of spring break because school was canceled for the rest of the year... They ended up keeping her for 4 weeks, but not longer due to their work schedule. So BM blocked the BF's phone number ... which is the only way they communicate, the judge wouldn't order them to use an app, but for all communication to be through text, call, and emails. So they texted the BM from my friend's number (SM). And the BM went OFF, said really nasty things actually, when all they asked was for her to unblock BF's number.
To make a long story short, my friend then vents how the BM never asked to or wanted to meet her (SM) ... and I told her, we are on total opposite ends of the spectrum, I have zero desire to meet my bf's ex and if she had asked/wanted to meet me the answer would of been no. The point of me telling you background on my friend and her husband's histoy with the BM is to show how high conflict she is to get a better answer to my question.
So my question is why do step parents want to meet their SO's ex? Especially when their SO's ex is very clearly such high conflict.
P.S. supposedly the BM is going to try and get a restraining order on my friend today because they contacted her on the SM's number and is going to contact her command today