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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Mon, 01/04/2021 - 7:17am

Now that my BM drama post is out of the way, I can update you all on mine and fiancé’s wedding plans. So on December 23 when my parents threw us an engagement dinner they of course asked about our plans for a wedding. So we told them how we wanted to basically have a super small ceremony very soon and then have a celebration later when COVID is not as big of a threat and we can have more of what we want with less chance of having to cancel or postpone, that we wanted to move across the country already married, etc. They took it SUPER well and actually joked that they thought we might of already got married and were relieved we did not without giving them the opportunity to be there. I told them how we did not want to get married in the church and they all laughed and said they already knew that.

 

So to sum it all up, after talking to my parents, we decided we are going to have an 8 guest wedding ceremony (my parents, 2 siblings, and both sets of my grandparents) only. We were worried about my sister who is going back to college in two weeks, but they will be flying her down to VA, taking my one set of grandparents from NJ with them to VA, and as long as no one gets sick or they “close the borders” like my other grandmother put it, the other set of grandparents will be flying in from FL. We will be having a ceremony only at an air bnb we rented, followed by dinner catered by my parents also at the air bnb and that will be our wedding with something bigger with more people, but still under 50 people at a later date. No one was upset or disappointed outside the usual bit of disappointment on how COVID alters the way things are done now.

 

This past weekend we went and bought our wedding bands, we have an appointment for our marriage license this Thursday, air bnb booked, caterer picked out, I have two white sweater dresses with lace being delivered soon as options for my dress, fiancé’s outfit bought, and been talking to some officiants. So we do have some stuff to do, we will be decorating the air bnb’s fireplace with greenery and candles that we will be getting married in front of, pick an officiant, etc. but so far feel pretty good about it. It will be small and simple, but with some really nice touches that I think will make it really nice.

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Submitted by JRI on Mon, 01/04/2021 - 10:18am

Im glad it went well with your parents.  Life is good!

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Submitted by SMto2 on Mon, 01/04/2021 - 3:55pm

Glad you have it all worked out! As I recall, most of your worry about telling them about the plans was that it would only be you and your fiancé present at the wedding, excluding all others. Had the original proposal included having your parents and both sets of your grandparents in attendance, I would have guessed there was nothing to worry about, and your parents would have taken it as well as they did. I also recall you saying something about not wanting your parents there because your fiancé's dad could not be there. I didn't see any mention of him in the list of 8 attendees, so it sounds like you reconciled that. What a relief that now you can move forward with your plans. Congratulations! 

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Submitted by futurestepmomno... on Mon, 01/04/2021 - 4:37pm

That way was because my sister goes to college 9 hours north of where we and my parents live so we didn't want to exclude her. We also didn't want people to suggest we wait so everyone can be included whenever that can happen again, so that's why we were taking the just us approach so we did not leave anyone out. We did not want to leave his dad out either, but he is not in any condition to travel anywhere currently and due to the marine corps restrictions we cannot travel to him and have a ceremony there either so our idea was have no one instead of excluding people. However, after talking to my parents and amongst ourselves and his dad, we ended up with just my parents, siblings and both sets of grandparents. 
 

So luckily, everyone is on board for the plan and the rest of our guest list of friends and family will be able to celebrate with us at a later date when it becomes possible again. 
 

Thank you! I am glad that it worked out very nicely. I think part of me was ready for my family who can be quite opinionated to think we should wait until everyone could be included. For my family I am the first child and grandchild to get married so it is very important to them. Plus I was worried they would think we should get married in the church which I really didn't want to do but SO would if that is what I wanted.