Totally none of my business, but I think BM
dropped off her older child somewhere for the summer, so she could enjoy a child free party summer. The reason I suspect this is because:
1. BM in 30 days has called 3 times to talk to SD after she had tried originally to have bf agree to a call schedule of twice a week... bf never said no to twice a week, he said no to a definite schedule that we would have to revolve our summer around
2. During all 3 phone calls, SD has not talked to her sister one time, but BM was so dead set on making sure in the PSA that it says reasonable phone access to her sister
3. BM has not tried once to see SD, but before the exchnge on June 1 said how she wanted to do day activities with her, x,y, z and bf did not say no to this, he said he would revisit it when she gave definite dates, she has not mentioned seeing SD at all
4. BM's instagram came up on one of my friend's feeds as "suggested" which is a public account that shows her hanging out with big groups of people, no posts of her older child, except a few days after June 1 and with the child's grandfather who lives states away. Which I wish my friend did not tell me actually because I also found out that someone posted about BM saying how she is a "survivor," "single mom who faced impossible challenges," "abuse survivor," etc. Which really irritated me because of the straight up lies that are posted which just confirms what we already knew. AKA that BM is playing a victim card and spreading terrible lies about my bf that are not even remotely true. I let it bother me for like ten minutes then I let it go because anyone who believes this woman is clearly stupid or a bad judge of character so therefore, I shouldn't care.
At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what she is doing or if she did drop the other child off for the summer, what matters to me is that BM would not let bf have primary custody, but very clearly BM is not interested in being a mom. Personally, I think it all was about being spiteful to bf and so she could pull the "I am a poor single mom all by myself" card, but realistically she doesn't want to put any effort in beyond that.
I am glad she is not blowing up bf's phone as a result of this, but makes me feel bad for SD and makes me feel bad for her other child because bf did want to be her dad, etc. and seems like BM just shipped her off to not deal with her either. It is not like BM is collecting child support from bf, because right now she isn't so it isn't like she fought to be the primary parent for money. I mean maybe BM manned up and started a relationship with her older child and her biological father. I don't know, but all signs point towards she just wants to party and not be a mom so why not just let bf do what he has wanted to do from the get go?
Whatever, I know, I know, there is no point in trying to understand, etc. just frustrates me anyway.