For those with out of state Christmas, what do you do when it is not your year?
SD is 4, this will be the first Christmas that bf will not see SD for Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, or the day following Christmas. From here on out, we get odd years of Christmas break and BM gets even years. We will be getting SD for Thanksgiving this year just because BM is still actually in the same state and willing to allow bf to have SD this year. For Christmas however, BM will not allow bf to have any time, but technically it is her year so can't be mad about that. Supposedly BM is moving in December prior to Christmas anyway, so we will actually be in different states, but who knows BM has said this before.
I was just curious what people do in regards to Christmas gifts when it is not their year. The next time we will get SD will be Spring Break. I already put my foot down with my mom yesterday who thought it was sad we were not sending SD any Christmas gifts to BM's house. Both bf and I decided months ago, we were not doing that for multiple reasons. 1. If we do that, then on our years we are going to be getting gifts from BM to our home, 2. You can't give BM an inch or she takes a mile, 3. With a high conflict BM like ours, it is best to stick to the strict boundaries, etc. My mom then asked if she could give SD a gift when we come for Thanksgiving and I told her that was totally fine.