Thanksgiving & the new attorney
Well, the day before Thanksgiving, surprise surprise, BM was not on time, instead of pick up at 4 pm, ended up getting bf's daughter at 5:15 because BM got stuck in traffic on the way home from their "activity" ... like she did not think to include the holiday traffic, no surprise there, at least we were leaving the next day so it was not a big deal, more like an annoyance than anything else.
Thanksgiving went great with my bf, my family, and my bf's daughter. It was the first time anyone in my family has met his daughter and they loved her. Well they also love little kids and his daughter is super well behaved so that makes it even easier for everyone to like her. It only took the 3.5 hours it is supposed to take to get there on Thanksgiving morning and we even stopped twice so that was awesome! The day after we did our annual Christmas Tree finding at the tree farm, took it home, and we all helped decorate my parent's tree. The next day we made cookies and pizzelles, etc. Literally no complaints about the visit with my family, except maybe that it took us 5 hours to get home because everyone left the same day we did instead of the following day because of this big snow storm that was supposed to hit the north Sunday and today.
My bf offically signed for and paid the retainer for the new attorney on Wednesday, woohoo. Bad news was the attorney who was supposed to be available until 2 pm, decided to change that plan, so now tomorrow my bf will be bringing all his files to give to the attorney plus what he wants the attorney to write up for an agreement to send to BM & her lawyer. He has decided to try to just have him & BM agree, we think it is too risky and a waste of time/money to go to trial. Last night, my bf and I sat down and discussed what we thought was fair to put in the agreement and he will be presenting that to his attorney tomorrow. We are asking for every other week and alternating holidays until he gets out of the military, plus every other year for claiming the child on taxes. Then when he gets out, to have summer break and Christmas break with his daughter. We think that is more than fair and as we know she won't budge on the school year thing, we decided to just take the loss right now and hope she agrees. My bf is worried she will not agree to this as her older daughter is not a part of the agreement, to which I do not think she legally could include the child anyway as she took his rights away. So we will see what the attorney thinks tomorrow.
Bf texted BM again about the Christmas dates she wanted to switch again and telling her he needed to know ASAP. Big surprise, BM avoided the question completely so he ended up texting again asking to switch the Friday for the Monday that weekend, as we will be going to my parents in that time frame. Guess what? BM then replied and said that works, the Friday is what I was going to see if you could switch..... WHY COULDN'T SHE JUST SAY THAT... we have been asking for weeks. Bf thinks she just wants to make things difficult, which I could see happening.
Also, bf dropped his daughter off at BM's last night and when his daughter saw BM, she said she didn't want to go with her and when BM picked her up and walked away, she was bawling her eyes out saying no.
That's all the update I have for now!