Which was a good and a bad thing. So first her attorney got some things wrong that BM did not catch such as the wrong year they were married (says a year before they were) and put their child's middle name wrong, easy fixes. Then there are some things added in there that were not discussed at all and then there are things that are not what they already agreed upon. We think BM has been waiting till the last minute hoping bf will just agree on everything to get this done.

1. The biggest one my bf has a problem with: lists that they split the cost of a cell phone for their child and that if it is taken away for disciplinary reasons that the other parent must be informed and there to be another form of communication made available to the child to contact the other parent....My bf was like no I am not agreeing to get a 3 year old a cell phone, not splitting a bill with BM, and giving BM a way to track what we are doing on my time. Plus what is there to stop BM from picking the newest most expensive phone and plan with bf having no say or even for BM to use it as her phone on her time.

2. BM to claim their daughter every year on taxes... They had agreed to alternate years to claim her. My bf and I came down to if BM let's bf claim her this year since he had her for majority of the year, then she can claim her for the other years. 

Those were really the two major things, other things were added such as if BM does not move this June like she is planning to then if it is not a burden on my bf and he agrees then bf will let their daughter go with BM to do day trip things and to split their daughter's birthday if she is still in VA. Fine, whatever. Then it was added in the communication part like many of yours about to have reasonable communication via phone and skype with the other parent when she is not with them. Rather have that then a written schedule of time and dates like others on here. It was interesting in there that it also says to have reasonable communication with BM's older child, which to me is kind of stupid because when bf's daughter is with us, BM will be with her other child and they can both talk to bf's daughter, but whatever. 

So all in all, nothing too crazy, but the cell phone part. My bf feels that should be something discussed down the road when she's older not now and I totally agree. For all those keep going on about CS, the way the agreement is written right now is it is illegal to have in there that no party ever pay child support, but that the parties agree to not file for child support now or in the future. Which as we all know, can change any day, any time, etc. but for right now they are both responsible for their daughter on their own time. Bf's daughter will stay on bf's medical insurance and it says they will split any costs not covered by his insurance. The tax thing would be re-addressed too if BM files for child support so that is why I told bf not to let it be a hill to die on especially when after September 1, BM will have primary custody. This afternoon my bf and his attorney will be going over those things and then hopefully BM doesn't make the phone thing a hill to die on and we can get it all done since court is scheduled for next Tuesday and if they can't agree on that, then they have to file for a continuance, etc. which we really don't want to do.

On another kind of funny note, my good friend texted me yesterday asking what BM looked like because her and her husband were in Target and heard bf's daughter's name (which is a super unique name) and heard the woman also call another child BM's older child's name. They sent a photo of her and I was like yep that is her. To which they told me they both agreed bf did WAY better with me, that BM is a giant (she is as tall as bf and my friend's husband) while my friend and I are short. They also offered to slash her tires and I said nah, no thanks BM already tried to blame bf and I when her car was keyed last year and we had nothing to do with it. I did tell them to instead ask her to sign the papers (at this point bf hadn't gotten them back). Anyways, it gave me a laugh and made me feel really good about myself.