So yesterday after I got to my bfs house after work his attorney calls to discuss pretrial, the notes my bf had on BM's revisions/additions, and to discuss next steps because he was in a criminal trial yesterday and so another lawyer in his firm went in place of him. So when bf's last attorney filed the motions for divorce, the reasons for divorce, etc. BM's attorney never responded to them, so normally this would be a good thing because then what my bfs attorney sent in should be accepted as fact since the other side did not contradict anything. Now new attorney did change it from not faulted to at fault divorce, but other than that, the last attorney put everything in about BM's adultery proven by genetic fact, etc. So yesterday the judge gave his summary and said he did not believe my bf's motions to have any merit. Like WTF, there is GENETIC PROOF OF HER ADULTERY. This right here just confirmed that this judge will NEVER side with or rule in my bf's favor which we already 90% knew, but now we are at 100%. BM's attorney did not even answer back saying this was not true, there is dna proof she had someone else's child, etc. and you don't believe this to be true? Absolutely ridiculous.

So anyway then they discussed what my bf's notes were to send an amended version of the settlement agreement to BM. He thinks it is reasonable to ask for split transportation costs once BM moves after we move because she moved out of the area too. So we are going with 6 weeks of summer, alternating Christmas, and spring break every year on the premise of splitting costs. In regards to the 50/50, since there is a date bf is moving and a clause will be added if bf does not move by June 2021, the 50/50 schedule is n/a and it will go to the break/school year schedule, bf's attorney thinks it may help sway BM to agree to this. I don't really know, but I can see where he might think that and it is worth a shot. The whole truck thing, my bf's attorney says since they only mentioned her name being on it and it isn't, once he shows them that, it will be a none issue. If BM pushes it then we will go the route of getting the proof bf's dad sent a check to bf, how bf took to bank and cashed it, etc. to prove it was a gift and that BM has no claim to anything regarding the truck.

So after all this with the attorney bf and I sat down and decided what we would be willing to go to court over for the few things we disagree about. If she does not agree to the 50/50, we will propose at least an overnight in substitution of the 4-6 pm mid-week visit on the week bf does not get his daughter. If she does not agree to splitting the transportation costs, we will go back to only summer and alternating Christmas, no spring break. The only thing we agree is worth risking court would be if she wants to fight over my bf's truck. His attorney was calling her attorney after speaking to my bf and hopefully we can get this all resolved quickly. My bf's attorney thinks there is a really great chance of settling and honestly we do too. Might have to take a bit more of a loss than we wanted, but at the same time, I think it is a better deal than the judge will give bf.

Plus today we get his daughter, so far since drop off almost two weeks ago, BM has been radio silent. Bf thinks BM will try and talk today or whatever, he really is pissed about the whole truck thing so he does not want to. I however told him, if she wants to talk if it is not totally unreasonable I think he should, it is not worth stirring the pot this close to agreeing and let's just get it done. Only thing I think he shouldn't talk about of course is her older daughter, but otherwise, being civil may give us some favor. Maybe not because she's crazy and high conflict, but at this point worth a shot.