So my birthday is this Wednesday and for about two weeks now, my bf has told me to not look at his phone because he is planning some things that I can’t know about it just yet and that I will ruin it for myself. So turns out it is because he was planning a surprise birthday dinner for me that happened last night! So he told me on Saturday, he wanted to go out to dinner the next night and while out there he wanted to “scope out” the restaurant I had requested to go to on my birthday for dinner. So I was like okay, sounds good to me. Then yesterday morning he said I want to try out this new Italian place, it is right near the other restaurant and I was like oh okay. He even showed me the menu for the Italian place and I picked out what I was ordering! So we are driving and he pulls up and parks in front of the restaurant I have been wanting to go to and said “actually we are going to eat here tonight” so I was like “okay, then where are we going to eat on Wednesday?” and he tells me that we will talk about it at the table. So we go inside which tells you to go to the patio hostess for seating. We go out there and it is so LOUD because they have an outdoor bar and it is on the water. Bf talks to hostess, which I can’t hear a thing between the music and people and then he starts walking so I follow him back inside. Then bf opens the door to this room for me and I walk in and stop because I don’t know where we are going and he gives me a little nudge forward and I am like “okay, I have no idea where we are going,” then I walk a few steps forward and see my friends for a surprise birthday dinner with my friends! I was super excited and surprised. When I go somewhere having no thought of seeing anyone I might know, I kind of go into a bubble and am not very observant. Apparently when my bf opened the door he saw my one friend right away straight ahead in a bright yellow shirt and I did not even realize it until we were practically walking in to the table. So we had a really nice dinner and even saw a rainbow on the way home! So brownie points to my bf for totally pulling it off without me having a clue. Side note apparently he is still working on some secretive stuff because he said that it is still a bit of time till I can look at his phone  to not ruin other surprises.

So now for the second half of my post, SKID behavior. So we have been spending more time with my friend and her husband who I have mentioned on here before. They have had their SD since the end of June and she goes back to her BM this weekend. Their SD is 3 years older than mine and they have been having a great time together! However, now I can fully grasp what the SM has been venting about after spending time around all 3 of them. Her SD is so ENTITLED and bratty, it is not even funny. The world revolves around SD 100%, she thinks that and SM’s DH doesn’t do anything to make her realize it does not. Don’t get me wrong SM’s DH is a really great person, but as a parent, there’s no way I would of stayed with bf if he parented the way SM’s DH does. I mean in SM’s defense, when they got together, her DH barely had any time with his daughter, so she did not get to see how her behavior was really and the BM ramped up her crazy behavior when she found out her ex was with someone else. So to her benefit, she had no idea what she was getting into. This is a big reason that I posted my other blog the other day because I am very happy that when I started seeing bf, he had majority custody, so I got to see how he parents, how his ex is, how SD is, etc. But to sum it up, basically SM’s DH is a Disney dad. He does not want to upset her because he barely sees her, he rewards bad behavior, he lets the SD dictate not just what they do, but she takes over the conversation, etc. Bf and I talked about it last night because at dinner last night there was a huge thing about their SD wanting a burger for dinner, SM said she doesn’t like burgers, DH was like just let her get it. Well guess what the food came and she refused to eat the burger. My SD got chicken tenders and it was a huge plate, so I asked SM if SD wanted some of my SD’s because there is no way she would eat it all anyway, which she gratefully accepted because she did not want SD to order another meal, but DH was going to let her. Then I told bf, I agree their SD is a brat and that behavior would not fly with us, but at the end of the day, their SD plays very nicely with SD and they have a great time together so that is all I am worried about. Plus it is not like we are around their SD all the time where I might get worried she would pick up bad habits from her, but it is only so often, so whatever.

Needless to say I am looking forward to vacation starting this coming weekend and seeing my family, plus BM called SD yesterday so it’ll be two weeks before she tries to call her again and we will be just returning from our trip. So crossing my fingers, BM does the normal for her now and f**ks off for two weeks and we can enjoy vacation without any talk or interruption from her.