Just like that we almost lost Thanksgiving
So if you read my blog earlier today stating about BM bringing up her older child again to my bf when confirming pick up time tomorrow for Thanksgiving, this is a continuation of that blog. So BM BLEW UP at my bf's response saying you took my rights away and that is the end of topic. Sent 4 paragraph messages back to back, see below for some quotes on her response to this.
"That is not what happened"
"If this is a punishment you are hurting *older child*. She cries and asks to call you. That is cruel. I never removed your rights other than legal ones to protect the girls"
"I have been nothing but patient and kind about extending time with *bf's daughter* so we can just give you your Friday if you want to be that way. Separating the girls for long periods of time isnt healthy and if we cant have a decent conversation than I'm no longer extending any time. Friday at 3."
"I have ignored your treatment of me and cutting *older child* off for a time so you could collect your thoughts but I can no longer do that. She feels you dont love her anymore and it tears her up. I have more than a few times said that I would honour your place in her life and you refused. I will not separate them more than I have to at this point and time."
"I am truly conflicted trying to go peacefully about the situation. Obviously equally fighting for the girls. They are my heart and soul and seeing *older child* in pieces is cruel. The only person your hurting is her and yourself."
"If we could squash this I would greatly appreciate it. I've honoured keeping *older child* out of it. Saying no to phone calls etc."
1. That is what happened
2. The only rights there are, are the legal ones....
3. The CO states bf has time on Thanksgiving from 9 am - 5 pm.. so not giving him any time on the holiday is contempt
4. This is all your fault and bf is not going to get on his knees and do what you want to be in child's life after you removed his rights
5. You dropped her off at your mom's 11 hours away on 11/15 and according to your social media you still are not even with the child... so you are willingly separating them on your own
6. You are the one who actually hurt the child and caused all of this
7. You caused ALL of this
So anyway, bf responded saying how she agreed previously to these arrangements, he has plans with his daughter revolving around the previous agreement for pick up, and how he only has her 6 days a week and wants to utilize any extra time he can. So back to picking her up at 4 pm tomorrow... BM is so delusional. Also all the spelling and grammatical errors is because it is BM's wording totally and completely
**Edit: I forgot this important one
"You do have to understand why I'm upset. We are *older child's* parents thats the only way I see it. So not resolving this issue hurts *older child*
^bf was not her parent when you removed his rights, bf was not her parent when you were rubbing it in that he was not her biological father over the summer, etc. It is super convenient that now you view him as her parent when you took away his rights to her.