Just like that BM is trying to start drama
Being a blog hog today. So BM agreed about not splitting a cell phone to say that either party can buy her a cell phone and she can bring it with her to the other parent's home and that the parent cannot unreasonably withhold the cell phone from her. Fine, me and bf came to an understanding amongst ourselves that once that happens, the location services of her phone will be turned off so BM cannot track us or anything on my bf's time.
So now this morning, BM texts bf asking if he is still picking up his daughter for the weekend.... Of course he is. Then she asks what time because she will be out of town this weekend 2 hours away and won't be leaving till he picks her up and back before drop off. Bf says the court ordered 3 pm pick up Friday and 3 pm drop off Sunday, that he can keep her longer if he needs her to. BM says I didn't know if you wanted longer. So bf tells her if you would allow longer then I can drop her off before bedtime. BM says okay.
BM says: "Also for the future I have her tablet which I will download a video talk text app on. For communication purposes with her. You will have to help her navigate it but it would work off your internet.
BM: "I would prefer she didn't travel anywhere with it unless it's a roadtrip. When she comes back here make sure it's in her bag and you can also use the app off your phone to call or video chat. I do think we should figure out a common time so to avoid interruptions in schedule. Just giving you a heads up.
AKA BM is trying to now substitute the language of "a cell phone" and apply it to a "tablet" since bf won't split a cell phone bill/cost with her she is trying to use the tablet his daughter already has at BM's to apply instead.
Bf: "I appreciate the offer. However, I would prefer for *daughter's name*'s belongings from your home to remain in your home. I have all that needs at my place for her. She can use my phone to video chat until she is older and has her own phone. We will discuss a good time for communication once the new schedule is established that way it is a set time."
BM: "I understand and that would be the only item. Since it falls under me paying for it that is what I decided on. It elimates using your phone as little as possible. Also her games and learning apps are on there. School for her starts once she is four so it was really encouraging her to learn."
Okay, 1. A tablet is not a cell phone, 2. BM does not get to decide what bf does on his time or anything in his home, 3. Clearly you are not teaching her anything when she does not know how to count or her colors, etc.
So bf is not going to respond to her last message, but in person will tell her how he has learning flash cards at home to encourage her learning, basically the items listed above, and no he is not taking the tablet to his home. Just because now that bf won't split the cell phone cost with you does not mean you can substitute it with something else. BM clearly is okay with her spending lots of time on a tablet or electronic device, but the child is three and we do not feel that way. NO NO NO. Stop trying to stir the pot and manipulate wording to get control BM, not happening.