For those of you who have been following my blog know that while my bf is finishing up the custody battle and his divorce, I have been staying pretty under the radar with BM. Despite everything she has done or said, I have let my bf handle it and I have continued to stay under the radar to not rock the boat further and/or negatively impact the final outcome of the all the legal battles. However, I am really getting to the point that I do not know how much longer I can stay quiet. 

So yesterday, not on my bf's weekend with his daughter, my bf and I went to our friends' house for football and games. An hour into us being there BM messages my bf on the co-parenting app they are using. Mind you she has not said a single word since drop off of his daughter a week ago, but magically we are out with our friends and as per usual she decides to send a message then. The message says "(older child that is not his and his rights are gone to) wants to call you. She has asked twice." My bf shows me this message without opening it because it time stamps when it is read, etc. This message infuriates me because this woman is still trying to play these emotional games with my bf. He said he wasn't going to open it because then she will see that he did and that was the end of our discussion because we were out and then when we got home we were exhausted.

I don't know if there is a point in any response to her because it will just make her go on and on. However, her going on and on especially about a child that is not even part of the equation anymore may support our want for a no contact order. I am so angry about this woman's persistence to keep bringing this child up. Right now I want to message her as myself and tell her how evil she is and that the child is her responsibility now, etc. Probably will not help the situation any so I will not, but I am just about to boil over on it. It wasn't enough to her apparently to cheat on my bf, have another man's child, pass it off as his for years, then take all his rights away to her, to then now try and act like he is a piece of shit because he isn't going to play your child's dad until you find a new guy to be her dad?! I really really don't like when anyone treats my bf badly especially when it is someone who has already wronged him so much then is continuing to try and hurt him because he is not bowing to what she wants.

On a somewhat positive note, my bf had a consultation with a lawyer he likes last week, so we are just waiting for him to get him the retainer and have him look deeper into his case. Based off the consultation the lawyer thinks it will be better to just try and agree with the ex because it is risky to spend all this time and money with no guarantee the lawyer will side with him on the ex being at fault for the divorce and there is no guarantee the judge will give him anymore parenting time with his daughter based on what this judge has already ruled. However, until he signs him and he looks at all the case files, he isn't 100% sure what would be the best route. Once he signs him, he will go into it about getting a no contact order and about his ex keep bringing up the other child. I really want to know this lawyer's thoughts on what can be done or how he should handle the situation.